Hello & welcome to my new home!  It is exhilerating to look ahead and see such good things coming.  Live & learn!  All I know is ... I never thought I would reach this place:  a place of personal and financial freedom, growing business and some extra-curricular business activities on the back burner ... simmering.

No, things are not perfect, thank God, because then I wouldn't need people, friends, or even Him.  We all face challenges daily, and there are even days, my glass looks to be half empty.  Why is it we always want what we cannot or shouldn't have???  hahaha  Appearances are deceiving, however, and even the glass that looks half empty is really half full ... with plenty of promise and potential to come.  The hard part is ... it usually comes only with hard work and sacrifice.  These are foreign concepts to many people today. No matter ... I will live my life, write my observations, thoughts (impressive or otherwise), and freely give my love and friendship along the way. 

So once again ... welcome to my adventure ... :D

I don't know how many of you are familiar with this song, or have tried in vain to discern the lyrics without chuckling, but ... well ... I got tired of not knowing the right words to sing, so I looked it up!  hahahahaha  and there's NOTHING about a douce in the words!   ;)  Hope it clears it up for your singing and listening pleasure! 

Blinded by the Light  by Manford Mann (et al)

[Chorus]: Blinded by the light
revved up like a deuce
Another runner in the night
Blinded by the light
revved up like a deuce
Another runner in the night
Blinded by the light
revved up like a deuce
Another runner in the night (fading)

Madman dummers bummers,
Indians in the summer,
With a teenager diplomat
And the dumps with the mumps
As the adolescent pumps his way into his hat

With a boulder my shoulder,
feeling kinda older,
I tripped the merry-go-round
With this very unpleasin', sneezin' and wheezin,
the calliope crashed to the ground
(pickup)
the calliope crashed to the ground

(chorus)

Some silicon sister with a manager mister
told me I go what it takes.
I'll run you on sonny to something strong
play the song with the funky break

And go-cart Mozart was checkin' out the
weather charts see if it was safe outside
And little Early Burly came by in his curly wurly
and asked me if i needed a ride
(pickup)
asked me if i needed a ride


(chorus)

Bridge: She got down but she never got tired
She's gonna make it to the night
She's gonna make it through the night


(break with soul-stirring solo)

Oh momma that's where the fun is
But momma that's where the fun is
Momma always told me not to look
in the eye's on the sun
But momma that's where the fun is

(chop sticks variation)

So brimstone-baritone, anti-cyclone Rolling Stone
Preacher from the East,
says dethrone the dictaphone, hit it in it's funny bone
thats what they expect at least

It's a new grown chaperon standing in the corner
watching the young girls dance
and some fresh sown moonstone messing with his frozen zone,
only reminding him of romance
(pickup)
and the calliope crashed to the ground

(Chorus)

(Chorus and First Verse)

Now Scott with the sling-shot finally found a tender spot
and throws his lover in the sand
and some blood-shot forget-me-not
said Daddy's within earshot, save the buck-shot, turn up the band

(repeat Verse 2 "Silicon sister with a manager....")

American Cities That Best Fit You:

65% Seattle

60% Austin

60% Honolulu

55% Atlanta

55% Denver

ahhhhhhh another holiday survived!  Perhaps some of you can offer some suggestions or ideas of how we an change the general "feel" of holidays in our home. 

ALL holidays seem to fall into the same category ... even brithdays, though not as much. 

HOLIDAYS SUCK!  Not really sure how I got to this place. I mean, most of you know that I am generally upbeat about most things, but ... holidays for me, since I was a child ... suck!  WHY, you innocently may ask?  It's hard to say ... a personality flaw perhaps?  hahaha  But if I am with my family, I miss my friends. If I am with my friends, I miss my family ... I just can['t seem to find a balance.  I suspect it has something to do with  . . . expectations!

What is it about expectations that skrews me up?  and Whose expectations?  mine?  my kids'?

or some mysterious hypothetical cultural expectations? Ahhhh who knows! 

Let me recount how my "Mother's Day" played out ... just for fun!  I worked, of course, midnight until 8 am.  I arrived home about 8:15 am to find a puppy pile by the front door, but at least I didn't step in it!  :P  I had a cup of coffee.  While quietly contemplating the beauty of the morning, Janna (15 yr old) arose to inform me that my son (18 yr old) & a male chum were both asleep in his room ... the chum had been locked out of his home?  After finishing my coffee, I went to bed & slept until about 2 pm.  Janna and I then went to Home Depot to fetch some hanging baskets for our porch and some dirt for the garden ... as if I really expect to get to it this summer!  hah!  :)  Now ... on the way, I'm told that she doesn't think the guy who is re-doing our bathroom is doing a good job.  I inquire why she has this feeling and she gets perturbed ... so I also become impatient because she seems unable to communicate her thoughts/feelings to me.  She is right, of course, about the bathroom. 

POINT:  This young man from my night work, is homeless & without family, a vet with some post traumatic symptoms .,.. unable to hold a regular job.  I hired him as a "handyman" to do odd jobs that I don't know hw to do or that I on't have TIME to do ... Mostly his work is good - it's just hard getting him there - not real dependable.  I paid him to install a new tub surround (anyone done this?)... incl cement board and plumbing fixtures, all of which I already purchased.  At this point, I would give him a  "C-" on this assignment ... but I am out the money, regardless ...

Please help!  Should I:

     a.  cut my losses and hire someone else to finish the job?   Require him to repair & do it RIGHT? (what if he cannot?)

     c.  screw it and try to finish it myself?

You see, I expected him to be able to do the job for which he was hired?  I know, I know ... silly expectation!  hmmm?

So ... after buying the hanging baskets I liked, and sitting in the sun, convertible top down, chatting with my daughter ... we went to dinner ... then home to bed, since I had to work again last night ...

Side note:  not until this morning did ANY of my 3 wonderful children wish me Happy Mother's day ... *sigh*  oh well ... I try ... So ... that is just an example of a "holiday" at our home.  Suggestions, comments, prayers?  hahaha  :D

Something that I am relatively new to ... within the last 5 years, anyway, is the concept of networking.  No, really! :)  Where have I been?  Well, I was safely tucked deeply into an unsatisfactory marriage forever, but now, at last,  I am an escapee.  In the meantime, somehow or other this whole concept evolved.  How cool is that? 

So, I grew up in this area, moved away for the duration of the marriage, and returned shortly before the end ... but now live in another community.  Had I decided to "work" my home community in Real Estate, I'm not altogether sure it would have played out any differently, but I chose to start at ground zero in my new community.  I have never shied away from hard work or challenges, but I do get impatient in waiting ... waiting ... waiting.  For what, you might ask.  In the course of building my "network" I have learned that most, if not all of the top 100 agents locally at some point in their career had a big break.  The man I work with, for example, followed in his dad's footsteps and at some point, when his dad retired, all clients and contacts became his by default.  Another top agent in our office was given a terrific listing (a friends' home) and managed to sell it fast ... Other agents in our office then assumed she had some "magic" and began to ask her to co-list with them.  Others asked her to "watch" their listings while they were on vacation ... Each time, she successfully managed to sell something, subsequently building a reputation. 

I have been working with our office's top seller/listor for a year now.  I LOVE the work.  I LOVE the business, and at this point, I feel rather like a racehorse at the gate, penned into that silly starting post.  I suppose at some point I the near future I will have to break free altogether, but in the meantime, I am trying to utilize my connection with him to build a firm network  ... not the same contacts, but getting ideas from  him, building a network of service contacts, professionals, friends ... any of whom may also decide to sell or buy something from me!  :P   Listening to his negotiating prowess - unmatched in this office, is like listening to well read poetry.  He is so good at it and it comes so naturally to him.  I feel like I have learned bunches and bunches in this position ... The latest lesson is all about time management!  Our current schedule is that I come in for the afternoons giving him the mornings to do what has to be done in the office and then he takes off and goes after the listings/or contacts out & about while I do the administrative stuff.  That also gives me my mornings to do MY stuff ... work on MY contacts & organization.  As long as I stick to this, it will be cool!  I just wish it would take off a little faster, ya know?  :D

So here's the thing ... How honest dare we be in a public forum like this?  Seems to me, that being honest can be kinda dangerous ... even more than taking a stand on a volatile issue … ???

In my observation, there is a common root:  irresponsibility, and it seems to be epidemic in our culture.  From the top to the bottom, we are all to eager to post all blame for our "problems" on someone else ...  our parents didn't love us, our parents divorced when I was a kid, our parents beat each other ... we're poor ... whatever ... Whether it's the corporate greed of big business or the vast numbers of fatherless children all around us, we live in a dichotomy that goes far beyond political parties or religious preferences.  It seems everything from teenage pregnancy to aids to political apathy is someone else's fault. 

There are few things that light my fuse faster than hearing something like this. Our society has "evolved" in one of any number of paradoxes.  On one hand we claim to teach our students the "logical" system of evolution, but evidence screams that, if indeed, we are a product of the "fittest", why is our society deteriorating?  We are smarter, more technologically astute, living longer, yada, yada, yada ... but random violence continues to increase, our youth are confused and lost without purpose or goals.  We teach our children they are animals (primates, only slightly ahead of the gorillas etc) and lower our expectations to that place ... saying, "We understand that you are just animals and cannot help yourselves and must have sex, but here is a condom."  In fact, our kids have little or no idea what real love is, the forever kind that is more than lust and emotion forged together ... the sacrificial kind that is divine in origin.  Many of our children are expected to perform academically, athletically, but morally, they can make up their own rules or not.

Now I know this is a radical thought, but why can we not teach our selves to be responsible for our own lives, our own words, our own actions & attitudes?  If we can teach ourselves, maybe our children will have something worthwhile to learn from us.  We talk about being free.  THIS is freedom, being responsible for the person I am ... not necessarily for who others see me to be or want me to be.  We can teach ourselves and our children to be responsible for the choices we make, i.e. that is it acceptable to say "NO".  Once responsibility is learned, there is a sense of achievement that also naturally boosts the self-respect by empowering the individual with intelligent choices.  By handing out condoms, we are stripping our young people of the choice to say no ... or at least validating the hormones that say YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS and at the same time calling it freedom!  Since when is limiting choices the same as the increase of freedom?

Today's Impressive Thought: 

We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.
                                                          -- Sir Winston Churchill

I have been a believer all my life ... even before I was taught about committment & being "born again." I grew up in a conservative, church-going, Presbyterian home. The blood of Jesus was never talked about, but we knew we were supposed to be moral. As I grew up, I was influenced by friends of other denominations, including Roman Catholic. The observations I write about here concern all believers regardless of denomination.

Paradigm Shift

With the dawn of the 22nd Century, the institution of marriage, along with serveral other sacred ideals, is under more pressure than ever, and alarmingly, religion makes no apparent difference. Most denominations are ambiguously against divorce in general, but reluctant to stand for the rights of individuals in a questionable situation. Even in the case of abuse, many local church pastors refuse to come to the defense of the victim for fear of taking an unpopular stand.

Where are victims supposed to go? to the state? Should the state care for the needs of an abuse victim better than the church? Should the abuse victim have to sit through further rejection and criticism from the church before she/he receives help? What about Believers in an abusive marriage ... where do they go? What constitutes abuse, anyway? (sexual, physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual)

For more, please go here for "My Story: TODAY"

Dear God,

         Could you please stop the bowling parties during storms?  The noise keeps me awake.

Jane

Dear God,

       How fast can you dig to China?  I worked all day and only got a little way!

Barbara

Dear God,

I wish you would not make it so easy for people to come apart. I had to have 3 stitches and a shot.
Janet

Dear God, How did you know you were God? Who told you?
Charlene

Dear God, I like the story about Chanukah the best of all of them. You really made up some good ones. I like walking on water, too.
Glenn

Dear God, My Grandpa says you were around when he was a little boy. How far back do you go?
Dennis

Dear God, It's O. K. that you made different religions but don't you get mixed up sometimes?
Arnold

Dear God, Did you mean for giraffes to look like that or was it an accident?
Norma

Dear God, In Bible times, did they really talk that fancy?
Jennifer

Dear God, How come you did all those miracles in the old days and don't do any now?
Seymour

Dear God, Please send Dennis Clark to a different summer camp this year.
Peter

Dear God, I keep waiting for spring, but it never did come yet. What's up? Don't forget.
Mark

Dear God, If you watch in Church on Sunday I will show you my new shoes.
Beth

Dear God, Is Reverend Coe a friend of yours, or do you just know him through the business?
Donny

Dear God, It is great the way you always get the stars in the right place. Why can't you do that with the moon?
Jeff

Dear God, I am doing the best I can. Really.
Frank

Dear God, In school they told us what You do. Who does it when You are on vacation?
Jane

Dear God, Are you really invisible or is that just a trick?
Lucy

Dear God, Is it true my father won't get in Heaven if he uses his bowling words in the house?
Anita

Dear God, Did you mean for the giraffe to look like that or was it an accident?
Norma

Dear God, Instead of letting people die and having to make new ones, why don't you just keep the ones you have now?
Jane

Dear God, Who draws the lines around the countries?
Nan

Dear God, I went to this wedding and they kissed right in church. Is that okay?
Neil

Dear God, What does it mean You are a jealous God? I thought You had everything.
Jane

Dear God, Thank you for the baby brother, but what I prayed for was a puppy.
Joyce

Dear God, Why is Sunday school on Sunday? I thought it was supposed to be our day of rest.
Tom L.

Dear God, Please send me a pony. I never asked for anything before. You can look it up.
Bruce

Dear God, If You give me a genie lamp like Aladdin, I will give you anything you want except my money or my chess set.
Raphael

Dear God, Maybe Cain and Abel would not kill each other so much if they had their own rooms. It works with my brother.
Larry

Dear God, I want to be just like my Daddy when I get big but not with so much hair all over.
Sam

Dear God, I think the stapler is one of your greatest inventions.
Ruth M.

Dear God, I bet it is very hard for You to love all of everybody in the whole world. There are only four people in our family and I can never do it.
Nan

Dear God, If You watch me in church Sunday, I'll show You my new shoes.
Mickey D.

Dear God, I would like to live 900 years like the guy in the Bible.
Love, Chris

Dear God, We read Thomas Edison made light. But in school they said You did it. So I bet he stoled your idea.
Sincerely, Donna

Dear God, I read the Bible. What does begat mean? Nobody will tell me.
Love, Alison

Dear God, Did you really mean "do unto others as they do unto you"? Because if you did, then I'm going to fix my brother.
Darla

Dear God, It rained for our whole vacation and is my father mad! He said some things about You that people are not supposed to say, but I hope You will not hurt him anyway.
Your friend. (But I am not going to tell you who I am.)

Dear God, If we come back as something -- please don't let me be Jennifer Horton because I hate her.
Denise

Dear God, You don't have to worry about me. I always look both ways.
Dean

Dear God, I think about You sometimes even when I'm not praying.
Elliott

Dear God, Of all the people who work for You I like Noah and David the best.
Rob

Dear God, My brother told me about being born but it doesn't sound right. They're just kidding, aren't they?
Marsha

Dear God, Why do we have to sleep?  Playing is much more fun.

Samantha

Dear God, The bad people laughed at Noah. "You made an ark on dry land, you fool." But he was smart, he stuck with You. That's what I would do.
Eddie

Dear God, I do not think anybody could be a better God. Well, I just want You to know, but I am not just saying that because You are God already.
Charles

Dear God, I didn't think orange went with purple until I saw the sunset you made on Tuesday. That was cool!
Kelly

At twenty-nine he was defeated in his bid to become house speaker. Two years later he lost a bid for elector. By thirty-five, he had been defeated twice while running for Congress. At thirty-nine (after a brief term in Congress) he lost his reelection bid.

At forty-one, his four-year-old son died. At forty-two, he was rejected as a prospective land officer. At forty-five, he ran for the Senate and lost. At forty-seven, he lost the vice presidential nomination. At forty-nine, he ran for Senate again - and lost again...

The man in question? Abraham Lincoln.

Failures of various kinds can be either roadblocks or stepping stones.  Our choice.  :D

I enjoy the unusual ... in many things, I guess, but for today's post, homes is the topic. Most of you know I am a REALTOR. I have opportunity to see incredible homes, but my favorites are not necessarily within the upper price brackets. My favorites are those that really reflect the owner in some way. So many homes are little more than boxes where we reside ... Although developments have their benefits, my personal preference is ... the unusual. Here is an example. They have taken a quaint, old chapel and transformed it into their own sancuary. Beautiful, hmmmm?

Wendy and Norm Edwards are newcomers to Northamptonshire. They moved from Maidenhead to live in this beautiful old chapel in a very quiet village in the east of the county.

The windows of the old Wesleyan chapel allow spectacular light into their home, but it wakes them up very early in the morning!

Light streams in through the windows of the Old Chapel.

Without doubt the centre piece of their home is the mullion window which scatters coloured beams of light across their white walls.

U.S. House to vote Tuesday May 24 on embryo-killing research (H.R. 810) Take Action!

WASHINGTON (UPDATED May 20, 2005) -- The U.S. House of Representatives will vote on Tuesday, May 24, on H.R. 810, a bill that would order federal funding of stem cell research that requires killing human embryos. NRLC strongly opposes this bill.

H.R. 810, sponsored by Reps. Michael Castle (R-De.) and Diana DeGette (D-Co.), would overturn the policy adopted by President Bush in 2001. President Bush's policy bars federal funding of research that would require killing human embryos. President Bush opposes H.R. 810.

On May 11, NRLC sent a letter to House members expressing opposition to the bill, and advising them that the roll call will be included in NRLC's scorecard of key congressional votes for the current Congress. You can read the NRLC letter here.

No amendments will be considered to H.R. 810. The House will vote yes or no on the bill as it was introduced. You can read the text of the bill here.

H.R. 810 currently has 201 co-sponsors. You can view an always-current list of co-sponsors by clicking here.

Your help is needed! Please IMMEDIATELY communicate with your representative in the U.S. House, urging him or her to support President Bush's pro-life policy by OPPOSING H.R. 810. Urge other pro-life citizens to do the same.

To easily send free e-mail messages to House members in opposition to H.R. 810, put your zip code into the "Take Action Now" box on this page.

Also, please call your U.S. House member through the Capitol Switchboard, 202-225-3121 (just give the switchboard operator your zip code and you will automatically be connected to the correct lawmaker's office). Urge him or her to VOTE NO ON H.R. 810, the "Castle embryo-killing bill."

NOTE: Stem cells obtained from NON-embryonic sources have provided benefits to real human patients with at least 58 different diseases and conditions (to see a partial list, click here). One ethical source for stem cells is the blood from umbilical cords (to see some information on therapeutic applications of cord blood stem cells, click here). On May 24, the same day that the House takes up H.R. 810, the House will also take up and pass the Stem Cell Therapeutic and Research Act, sponsored by Congressman Chris Smith (R-NJ), the chairman of the House Pro-Life Caucus. This bill will establish a new federal program to make stem cells extracted from umbilical cord blood available to patients who need them. NRLC supports the Stem Cell Therapeutic and Research Act. Pro-life House members should be urged to support "the Chris Smith cord blood bill" as an ethical alternative to the embryo-killing research promoted by H.R. 810. (No bill number has yet been assigned to the Chris Smith cord blood bill.)

For further information on embryonic stem cell research, click hereain and here. Or, send e-mail to Legfederal@aol.com.

NOTE: There is also likely to be a vote on this issue this year in the Senate, where the bill has been introduced by Senators Arlen Specter (R-Pa.) and Tom Harkin (D-Iowa) as S. 471. To send your two U.S. senators appropriate messages about this legislation, click here.

PLEASE KEEP N.R.L.C. INFORMED! If you obtain a response from a Member of Congress, or any other information on any lawmaker’s position on this issue (including information reported in the press), please forward it to NRLC by e-mail to Legfederal@aol.com (preferred), or by fax to (202) 347-3668, or by U.S. mail to NRLC, Federal Legislation Department, 512-10th Street Northwest, Washington, D.C. 20004-1401.

Is it just me, or does this sound like a grownup version of fighting over the sandbox??? The majority is the majority ... I never did appreciate the value of the filibuster!!!just vote and get it done with, for pete's sake (and everyone else's too!)

PHONY APOCALYPSE By William F. Buckley Jr.Fri May 20, 8:05 PM ET

Really, you would think the Republicans had proposed to topple the Statue of Liberty. The brummagem moral fanfare imposed on the controversy reminds one of the desperation with which losers will attempt to cope with disappointment at the polls.

It is worth pondering what it is that is being fought over. In the 18th century, England went to war with Spain nudged on by evidence that Spanish guards had defaced a British naval officer. What began as the War of Jenkins' Ear had a long afterlife in many phases, but the sliced-off ear was the proximate cause of it, and now we are asked to believe that sending Priscilla Owen to the Court of Appeals in New Orleans would be a long stride in the reconfiguration of constitutional arrangements.

Focus on the ear of this threatened war. It would have been more reassuring if the fight had been over a Robert Bork, a candidate of singular eminence. Judge Owen is not an arresting judicial figure to that degree, and has here and there given voice to politically incorrect sentiments.

Still, the relevant focus isn't on a single nominee. There are 10 presidential nominations to the federal appellate courts that were grounded in President Bush's first term; he has renominated seven of them, including Owen. Attention has now turned to the question of process. The Democrats have long brandished the ultimate weapon of the minority, the filibuster. This is the instrument of the legislative desperado who holds up the entire political establishment, thus frustrating the majority.

Much time has been given in recent days to the potential usefulness of the filibuster. The filibuster may be defined as a means by which a single senator can multiply his strength by 10. As long as the cloture rule prevails, 5l senators cannot act for the Senate. What's needed is 60 senators -- i.e., enough to gainsay a filibuster, ongoing or threatened.

The glamorous paradigm of the filibuster is in the movie "Mr. Smith Goes to Washington." Here, the young Senator Smith held out against the corrupt majority and vindicated self-government. The late Sen. Strom Thurmond has the extra-Hollywood record here, a filibuster that lasted some 24 hours, in behalf of a lost cause, but fortifying the idea that the means to frustrate the simple majority is an ennobling anomaly in the practice of majority rule.

Threat brings on counter-threat, as usual. The announced determination of the Republican majority to vitiate cloture has mobilized the Democrats to say, in effect, that if such a step is taken, they will retaliate by closing down the Senate. Well, not quite closing it down -- the experience of Newt Gingrich in closing down government reduced forever the temptation to do so. The threatening senators would not close down that much of their activity as is required to meet financial obligations, but would cease all other work, effectively closing down the legislative branch of government.

Representatives of both sides of the controversy continue to meet, seeking a "compromise." The compromise being talked about is of two kinds. The first would in effect reduce the authority of the president to name judges, subject always to majority approval. The proposal that a commission reporting to the Senate might come up with a pool of acceptable judges, and recommend that the president make his choice from among them, would of course diminish executive authority.

Compromise of a second kind would amount to a face-saver -- something on the order of ordaining 100 hours of debate in the Senate chamber before a decisive vote.

An interesting feature in the dispute is that some of the hard-liners are former House members, and there the tradition is that the majority exercises the authority of the majority with no shedding of constitutional tears over imperiled or lost traditions. Sen. Rick Santorum (news, bio, voting record), R-Pa., for instance, says quite simply: The Constitution requires assent by the Senate for presidential appointments. Well, we are the Senate, and 51 votes control the Senate, and why are we going on so endlessly in this dispute?

Invigorating words. Moreover, the Republican senators tend to dissipate their authority by hesitating to use it. That hesitation, after a while, comes over not as deliberation, but as irresolution. If the nomination of Judge Owen generates irresolution, then let distressed Republican senators just say so -- say that they will vote against her. To do that is better than to abandon their responsibility to act as an effective majority.

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Always loved listening to this guy talk ... even before I understand what he was saying ... :)

Take a stand!

I have always had a weakness for the quaint, yet simple farmhouse. :) Now just look at the one I found! Hahahaha ... art gallery & indoor lap pool, hmmmm now that’s rustic!

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TOPIC #1
As you can see, I have returned to my more descriptive profile pic, now that you all know what I look like. Perhaps, from time to time, I will go back to it, but this one is also me, figuratively! ;) I work waaaaaaaaay too much, but what time I have, I dance through life. I seek always the abundance of what life offers, and though sometimes I get hurt or disappointed in the process, I cannot and will not be anything other than who I am. That said ... let's move to the next topic. :)

TOPIC #2
We started a discussion yesterday about dress and the responses that our dress elicit. Are we responsible for the reactions and responses of others? Are we respnsible for our own motives for our dress?

LADIES:
• Are we dressing to be comfortable?
• Are we dressing for success in the business world?
• Are you dressing to appear as attractive as possible to those you meet?
• Are you dressing to arouse the opposite sex?

MEN:
• Are you dressing to be comfortable?
• Are you dressing for success in the business world?
• Are you dressing to appear as attractive as possible to those you meet?
• Are you dressing to arouse the opposite sex?

Well ... I haven't done a quiz in a while and WOOHOO ... hahaha  I picked a good one!!!  ;)

TITLE:_______________________________________

Made famous by any one of several.

Name one:_________________

It cost me a lot

But there's one thing that I've got

It's my man

It's my man

Cold or wet

Tired, you bet

All of this I'll soon forget

 With my man

He's not much on looks

He's no hero out of books

But I love him

Yes, I love him

Two or three girls Has he

 That he likes as well as me

But I love him

I don't know why I should

He isn't true

He beats me, too  (hmmmmmm ...???)

What can I do?

Oh, my man, I love him so

He'll never know

All my life is just a spare

But I don't care

When he takes me in his arms

The world is bright

All right

What's the difference if I say

I'll go away

When I know I'll come back

On my knees someday

For whatever my man is

I'm his

forevermore .

Here are the lyrics to one of my old fav's.  Check it out. 

FEELS LIKE THE FIRST TIME
Foreigner

I would climb any mountain, sail across the stormy sea
If that's what it takes me baby, to show how much you mean to me
And I guess that it's just the woman in you, that brings out the man in me
I know I can't help myself, you're all in the world to me

Chorus:
It feels like the first time, feels like the very first time
It feels like the first time, it feels like the very first time

I have waited a lifetime, spent my time so foolishly
But now that I found you, together we'll make history
And I know that it must be the woman in you, that brings out the man in me
I know I can't help myself, you're all my eyes can see

And it feels like the first time, like it never did before
Feels like the first time, like we've opened up the door
Feels like the first time, like it never will again, never again

chorus - open up the door, won't you open up the door

In response to yesterday's song yrics ... My Man,    I always liked this song, too ... it's a real moving song, but when I learned the lyrics ... I was almost   outraged.  And we wonder why a woman will stay with an abuser.  This is the culture many of us know, or knew.  This is what both history and much today in our TV shows, magazines, movies etc ... this is what we see.  It may not be what people say they believe, but ... This is the stuff that should have been the focus of the "women's lib" movement etc. but the media is all around us, with images of "beautiful, but brainless" women.  Most of us even laugh about it.  Our girls are still taught (not in words, but in images - and what is the cliche, one pic is worth 1000 words? )  that if they are not attached to a man, their life is pointless, empty, lonely ... (add your own description here)

On this auspicious morning, I want to take a short moment to thank all the Men and Women who have chosen to serve the people of this nation in the military and/or civil servants.  I have met many over the years and still communicate with a few I knew when I was in the Army myself.   Regardless of what we might think about the war in Iraq, we have many thousands of our brothers, sisiters, moms, dads, and children serving now in harms way.  Many, too, have already paid the supreme price.  Some do not understand, but that's OK, too. 

Now on to the celebrations ...

Have you ever wondered about hamburgers and hotdogs ... where they came from??? Well ... just in case Your answer is YES!!! ... I have toiled and searched to uncover the truth ... ;)

I know I've posted this before, but ... it seems appropriate for today. Though we may not agree on the pathway, the destination is agreed upon by all. PEACE SOON!

Judith C. Young
National Service Officer
American Gold Star Mothers
Phone: 202-265-0991

May 27, 2005

Statement Regarding National Media Attention Concerning Ligaya Lagman And “The Denial Of A Gold Star”.

The term "gold star" is a term used to recognize the family member of a serviceman or servicewoman who has died in the line of service to their country. As protocol states, the Department of Defense presents to the family, a gold star lapel button, in accordance with each branch of the military’s protocol. The gold star lapel button is not issued by the American Gold Star Mothers, Inc.

As to the accusation that Mrs. Lagman’s application was denied does not tell the complete story. The application for membership with American Gold Star Mothers was received by the Department of New York. It was not completed or signed by the applicant, nor did it have the required copy of the death certificate and the payment of the first years dues. There were several inaccuracies on the application as to the dates required. A certified letter was mailed to Mrs. Lagman requesting the application be completed in full and returned for approval. To date, we have not heard from Mrs. Lagman, nor have we received any form of communication to the status of her membership application.

To say that the application has been denied is not an accurate statement.

It is also true that the constitution and bylaws of the organization’s founder, Mrs. Grace Darling Seibold, established in 1928, along with fellow charter members, named the organization 'American Gold Star Mothers'.

In Article IV, Section 1 under Eligiblity and Membership states

“Natural Mothers, or citizens of the United States or the Territorial and Insular Possessions of the United States, at the time of their sons or daughters induction into the United States Armed Forces and died as a casualty, killed, captured, missing in action, or as a result of illness or injury received through engagement in the Armed Forces in WWI, WWII, Korean War, Vietnam, Afganistan, and other Strategic Areas.

On June 12, 1984, President Ronald Reagan signed and approved a charter for the American Gold Star Mothers, Inc. granted by the 98th Congress of the United States of America, which states under Powers, Section 2:

“American Gold Star Mothers, Inc. shall have only those powers granted to it though it’s bylaws and articles of incorporation filed in the state or states which is incorporated and subject to the laws of such state or states.”

As Congress has dictated above, by it’s issuance of the federal charter, by virtue of its name, shall be recognized as “American Gold Star Mothers, Inc.”.

In the article there is mention to the fact that the membership board voted and discriminated against Mrs. Lagman. It was not a vote taken for membership, nor a change in the constitution. It was only from an outside source that the discussion took place regarding an upcoming applicant situation, and at that time, the board decided not to make an exception to the rule without proper investigation.

American Gold Star Mothers is an all-volunteer 501.c.3 organization with no federal funding or benefits from any government agency. Its only means of income is from membership dues and donations. They are grateful for the outpouring of support from other Veterans Service Organizations over the years who have worked closely with the Mothers, and knows their only honorable intentions comes from the heart.

The Executive Board would like to take this opportunity to apologize for anything taken out of its context in the dissemination of information while being investigated by the media and improperly reported. They would also appreciate the time to seek a remedy to this situation and handle it internally so that the best interests of all, and to future Mothers, can be addressed.

American Gold Star Mothers have received threats, malicious accusations, and disturbing e-mails, phone calls, and faxes. This organization of moms joined to support each other and also to support the veterans who are fortunate to come home. They have spent the last 77 years devoting their time and energy in service to the Veterans Administration, volunteering in VA Hospitals and nursing homes, accruing millions of hours helping those who honorably served their country.

~ Let Her Cry Lyrics ~

She sits alone by a lamp post Trying to find a thought that's escaped her mind She says dad's the one I love the most But Stipe's not far behind She never lets me in Only tells me where she's been When she's had too much to drink? I say that I don't care I just run my hands through her dark hair Then I pray to God you gotta Help me fly away And just let her cry If the tears fall down like rain Let her sing If it eases all her pain Let her go Let her walk right out on me And if the sun comes up tomorrow Let her be Let her be This morning I woke up alone Found a note standing by the phone Saying baby, maybe I'll be back someday I wanted to look for you You walked in I didn't know just what I should do So I sat back down and had a beer and felt sorry for myself Saying let her cry If the tears fall down like rain Let her sing If it eases all her pain Let her go Let her walk right out on me And if the sun comes up tomorrow Let her be Let her be Let her cry If the tears fall down like rain Let her sing If it eases all her pain Let her go Let her walk right out on me And if the sun comes up tomorrow Let her be Oh... Last night I tried to leave Cried so much I could not believe She was the same girl I fell in love with long ago She went in the back to get high I sat down on my couch and cried yellin' Oh momma, please help me Won't you hold my hand and... Let her cry If the tears fall down like rain Let her sing If it eases all her pain Let her go Let her walk right out on me And if the sun comes up tomorrow Let her be Let her cry If the tears fall down like rain Let her sing If it eases all her pain Let her go Let her walk right out on me And if the sun comes up tomorrow Let her be Oh, let her be

Hug a Vet Today!

Starring: phsbum.mindsay.com, bigbro18, #1pup, and of course, velvetdreams.

The b-day girl and bf arrived in style (in my old '81 LeManns) and the evening was begun!  The fire was quickly lit and food put on to sizzle, the tempting tendrels of smoke wafting skyward.   It really didn't take long for the food to cook, but in the meantime, our Home was filled with the chatter of Family catching up on the details of everyday life.  The bf is convinced that I do not approve of him, but that is not the case.  I suppose any of you who are the parent of an adult child can understand my position ... He is a nice enough boy, but  ... yup, but ... he only has a high school  education, with very little ambition and no goals to speak of.  Likewise, #1pup is similarly unmotivated ... not particularly a good match, in my humble opinion, yet ... It is their decision.  Still ... I am a Mom, and one who knows the ugliness of choosing the wrong man, desperately wanting her not to make the same mistake.  (There's plenty of NEW mistakes for her to make, no need to repeat mine.) 

The meal was served, the chatter continued, punctuated with laughs and even a few playful screams.  The plates were cleared, and the suspense grew as the birthday girl was suddenly piled with small tokens of our affection.  Again laughter and playful banter continued as she opened the gifts.  (At this point, all were seated on the front porch with only the glowing embers and the overhead porch light over us.  Suddenly, the porch light was squelched and a silhouette appeared in the doorway with a tray alit with "22", and an updated refrain of "Happy Birthday"  weakly, but it was heard and followed by much chuckling!

Well ... so the evening continiued with a few more hours of laughter and affectionate chatter, a few wine coolers (only for the birthday girl-now22, her bf and moi) until finally ... #1pup & bf made their excuses and hugs and left. end of a lovely day

I managed about 2 hours of sleep before rising to dutifully return to the grind!  end of Saturday and the beginning of Sunday ... a relaxing day at home ... well, except for the  3 hour drive with the top down "doing my job!"  (One of our favorite things in spite of gasoline prices, is to ride around the area, looking for *FSBO's and always alert to the local housing market.)  We wondered near a local Blockbuster asnd decided on a whim (silently thankful to have cash in my pocket to do such things - having gone many, many years without such "extra's")  to rent a couple DVD's.  phsbum's choice: The Glass House;  Mom's choice: A Wrinkle in Time (Don't know anything about the movie, but loved the book!)  A movie night followed ... complete with popcorn and 3 pets in my bed!

Now if it seems, phsbum and I are close, well ... we are!  We spend a great deal of time alone together ... #1pup lives with bf (not my choice, but ... she's an adult!), bigbro18 ... well, he's 18!!!  He is always on the go, man about town, a good kid, but not around much.  Between work and friends ... no steady gf yet, but that's OK by me!  ;)  he is not home much.  (Neither was I at that age!)

That brings me to Monday morning, I believe.  I am a Vet.  I never saw combat, thank God, but I was in at the tail end of Viet Nam and saw many of my friends and comrades perish & change.  I fear for our military today.  I fear many will feel much the same things we felt then ... In an idealistic rejection of "the war but not those fighting it," there is great danger of sowing the same humiliation, rage, and hatred we faced during the 70's.  It's easy to talk about separating the people from the war, but ... not as easy to do.  I'm not talking about the right or wrongs of the war.  Too late for that.  We're there, our men and women are paying the price as are their families.  Just think, please, if your brother, sister, mother, father other ... was slain there  (heaven forbid).  How would you feel amid a roomful of people condemning the war?  I would just as soon there be no need for war, ever, but alas ... there are bullies here and abroad; there are injustices, here and abroad; and are we our "brother's" keeper?   That's a question for "think tanks", but as reality plays out, if we are NOT, the boat will sink much more quickly than if we somehow try to help one another ... ?  Yes, intentions count.   We need to honor our Vets, on every front. They must know experiencially our support. That cannot be turned on and off. On that note ... *throwing kisses & taking bows* our drama comes to a close for today.  Thank You & goodnight one and all.  :D

Time passes.  It is funny to me how images "evolve" over time.  Please forgive me as I emote a bit here ... but ... it is necessary for my mental health!  hahahaha 

I believe it was sometime in January of ... ummm ... 2004 that I first met the Man called Seere.  He found me in an empty space, my marriage dissolved, my teaching career sabotaged by my ex;  I was floundering.  It was certainly not the best time to meet someone of interest.

Although it felt a bit strange at first, Seere quickly became an encourager ... helping me make some adjustments to my resume and continually building me up.  We talked about many things and seemed to agree on most.  Then after only actually seeing Him twice, He announced to me that He had to move to West Australia for what He thought would be first a month, then 6 months, then ultimately a bit over a year.  He even posted on His mindsay blog (now deleted) about returning to me in March or April.  That didn't happen due to health issues.  We adjusted. 

We chatted online at first once or twice a week, but it quickly grew to daily sometimes just a few minutes, sometimes hours.  In the meantime, I obtained the convenience store job and started the real estate training, got my license and things began to stablize in my life.  Seere was a friend and confidante, strange as it sounds.  He encouraged my sales career by giving my little pointers and suggestions. 

I do not know for a fact what has become of Him, nor, I suppose, will I ever in this lifetime.  I miss Him terribly, to my dismay, and I am hoping that this post may do me some good in purging my thoughts and feelings ... It angers me to think He may have deceived me in some way, and yet ... there are some intangibles, call it what You will, we had a connection.  We were never intimate though the subject of marriage did come up once or twice ... favorably.  I knew I wasn't ready for a committment like that, though ... at least not yet. 

As many of You know, we had planned for Him to join me here on 20 May.  He seemed quite excited.  The last weekend in April, He went to Melbourne to be with His adult children. The last time I spoke to Him was Sunday, 1 May and He was planning to return to Perth the next morning.  I never heard from Him again.  Friday, 6 May I received an email from His son explaining that Seere had passed quietly Wednesday afternoon.   That was all.   I have written to the family and asked for some token  ... but as yet, I have received nothing. 

I do not know what to think ... what to feel ... do not know how to mourn except for the dreams and hopes I permitted myself.   I am not sorry because it was vital that I know I could, in fact, still dream and hope.  My gut feelings tell me that He is  alive someplace and simply either could not face me or never intended to come back at all.  It is a bizaare thing no matter how one looks at it. 

Sheesh ... I'm wordy lately ... so that's the scoop.  Bottom line?  I miss Him.  :(

For all the negative things we have to say to ourselves, God has a positive answer for it:

You say: "It's impossible"

God says: "All things are possible" (Luke 18:27)

You say: "I'm too tired"

God says: "I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28-30)

OK, serious question time:  What is it about us humans that we are compelled to exalt one human over others? 

Whether it is in the business world, the community, the local church, the playground, we human beings are compelled to "idolize" certain people.  Why?  What is it about those "idols" that causes us to exalt them over us? 

I suppose some would argue that it is simply an organizational thing, and it may indeed start out that way.  But there is something innate within us  ... a need to be lead?  a need to worship something/someone?  an aversion to responsibility so we look for a scapegoat?  :P

It is a puzzle to me.  On one hand, we preach (myself included) equality ... perhaps it is an unattainable ideal.  It makes me crazy to see within certain organizations, some exalted simply as favors, or for reasons other than qualification & experience (history).  It is laughable to me to see some people "wearing" their supposed rank as though it somehow actually makes them better people. 

For example #1:  There is a woman whom we'll call Betty, in her late 50's, only a high school education, but by some unknown ladder, has climbed to an area supervisor position in a local retail chain.  She has no customer service experience, yet is over 15 local managers with many years such experience.  Her only "kudo" is tenure, years with the company.  She wears her position like a crown and I find myself chuckling at the silliness of her behavior.

Example #2:  There is a rather timid fellow, smart, but uneducated who marries the oldest daughter of the boss.  They become Mr. & Mrs. Boss's daughter.  As time passes, Daddy grows older and cannot carry out all the responsibilities of his position.  Mr. Boss's daughter is installed as President with Daddy moving to the position of CEO.  If you meet Mr Boss's daughter anyplace other than his office, he is timid, soft spoken, even downright shy.  Meet him in his office and you see him wearing the mantle of  ... hmmm not sure, Daddy's mantle?  or Boss's daughter's mantle ... not quite sure but it is clear that it doesn't quite fit.  Yet no one says anything ... no one questions the transition ??? 

Example #3 Many of us will agree that there is no place more cruel than the school play ground.  In the average school yard, there is a very specific hierarchy. 

• There is the bully, the one in complete control of students & teachers ... yes indeed!  It may be subtle, but nevertheless, in my 16+ yrs of be being a student plus my 10 yrs as a teacher, I saw it every year!  The Bully may be nice, but he/she is still a manipulator and gains his/her position through intimidation.
• There is the runt.  Just like in a litter of puppies or kittens, there is the runt of the school playground.  Smaller & weaker physically but also wearing a victim's garment, even as early as Kindergarden, this student has an uphill climb from the get-go. 
• There is often, but alas not always, a hero/herione who dares occasionally to take on the bully.  This hero/heroine may also be a bully and may be almost fighting for turf, but in the process often takes up the cause of the runt. 

Now there are other positions, but these are the main ones.  Any of you who work with people should recognize them, yes? 

My question is ... Is this hierarchy system simply Nature's order perpetuating itself?  And if so, where does that leave the concept of equality?  Is not the toe as important as the navel?  I mean, does not each part have equal value?  (I have asked this before ... it is a nagging question to me?)

Any other Beatle fans out there in blogland?  I came across this bio of Ringo and his new project and thought it was interesting enough to share.  I found it HERE

'The Long And Winding Road' is more than a song," Ringo Starr sings on the title track of his latest album Choose Love. And one of the most remarkable things about Choose Love is that this far down that long and winding road, Ringo Starr has never sounded more excited and engaged by the music he's making and the message of love that it spreads.

Choose Love is full of inspired songs of innocence and experience -- the heartfelt and heartening work of someone who's lived a little and learned a lot. This is rousing, rough and ready rock & roll that lovingly embraces the past, but has its eye very much on our shared future. And it's an album first and foremost about the best choice any of us have -- Love.

"What other choice is there?" Starr asks as he sits at home with Mark Hudson. Hudson is one of his key fellow travelers in the journey of the Roundheads, the loose but tight combo of collaborators - Hudson, Steve Dudas, Gary Burr and auxiliary Roundhead Jim Cox -- who have worked with Ringo on his recent run of winning albums. For Starr, love is a theme of profound and enduring importance. "From the beginning, the Beatles were saying `I Wanna Hold Your Hand' and `Love Me Do.' It was all about love and that's still the most powerful message. If you look at the overall picture, the Beatles were about love and what better subject is there really?"

Having lost his way somewhere in the first half of the Seventies, Ringo Starr eventually found love with his wife, Barbara, and found his way back to his love of music at the start of the Nineties.  Now with the Roundheads, he rediscovered his rightful place in the world. "I am a band member," he declares. "That's who I am. That's who I want to be. It takes a band -- even more than it takes a village -- to make music like this. By now, we feel like we know each other's minds, we know where we're going. It takes time -- time takes time. The good news is that as we've been making records together a while now, and I'm proud if this album shows growth and progress in terms of playing like a band."

"That's what we are -- a well-to-do garage band," says Starr says with a grin.

"Speak for yourself," Hudson says with a laugh.

Though the new album features a few guests, notably Chrissie Hynde on "Don't Hang Up," roots guitarist Robert Randolph on "Fading In, Fading Out" and "Oh My Lord", Billy Preston on "Oh My Lord," Ringo and the Roundheads are once again at the beating heart of Choose Love.

"Every time, before we start a new album we sit down and think, okay what do we do now? On the last album, RingoRama, we decided to feature the drums - the drumming on that album is unbelievable. Ringo was literally the driving force on that album. This time Ringo wanted to go the other way. He said, "I want it to sound like a band, a little more down and dirty and guitar-driven." And as soon as we got on that page, we started writing that way as well."

"This has been a joy in my life working with the guys," Starr says. You can have fun, and you can even have that bad day with each other, and it's not held against you. So you have the freedom to be who you are and still be together. It's been a remarkable run already, but ten years from now it will be all blues because that will be the only speed I'll be able to play."

Until then, Starr is proud to spread his own good word. "You have to get a lot of experience to get to the point where you can say `Choose Love' in an honest way," he says. "Life is filled with ups and downs, but in the end it's best filled with love -- that's my conclusion. That it's the best choice any of us have."

I'm kinda hoping that phsbum writes something about our trip, but ... Friday, she and I took a rather spontaneous trip to Gettysburg, PA.  Several years ago I was stationed near there in a now defunct military post.  I happened to mentioned to her a couple weeks ago when she began her study of the Cvil War in school, that one day, we should pop down there and have a look around.  When I was stationed there, I enjoyed going there from time to time ... thinking, appreciating our HISTORY. 

Nothing more was said ... Firday, she called me at the office and asked if we were still going to Gettysburg?  :O  Quickly, I checked my bank account and determined that it was a possibility only to learn that she also had a softball game that evening ... :P  To make a long story short ... We DID go ... We got out of Pittsburgh by about 8:30 pm and arrived, through milk thick fog a bit after midnight ... to find that our motel was overbooked ... but WE still had a room!  WHEW! 

Saturday, we arose and found our way to the battlefields, took the car tour (which enabled us to go at our own pace, stop and take photos etc)  My hope was that somehow a spark would be lit ... that she would gain the key that ties the past and present together.  :)  I think she just might have found it!  Understanding that REAL people fought and died for our freedom ... to preserve the Union ... Of course there were scoundrels on both sides and scandals too, but ...

the trip had some special significances for me, too.

• I realized that a year ago, it was an impossibility for us to take such trips spontaneously OR otherwise.  We are making progress ... slower than I wish, but still ... it is progress!  :D
• It was semi-spooky to be back in territory that I frequented , ummm, in the late 70's.  Only a FEW changes!  hahahaha 

All in all, it was a good little trip and has opened the door to more!  Yeah baby, we're dreaming bigger and bigger!  ;) Pics to come

Here is a great little quiz to help any prospective sellers make some initial choices. Click H$R$

Answers will be posted later today! Good luck!

Do you ever feel ...

• frustrated that others are not understanding your meaning?
• at a total loss for words?
• out of touch?
• alone on the planet?

There has been a lot of talk of late about what bloging means to people.  We all have any number of valid reasons for blogging and even for enjoying it!  Some of these reasons are listed above.  Amidst all the celebration of blogging, however, I don't believe I have seen any attempt at "boundaries" posted.  So, naturally, I felt the need to do something about that.  ;)

20 Things that blogging at mindsay is NOT:

1. a substitution of REAL friends
2. a winning lottery ticket worth millions
3. a mystery lover in disguise (alas!)
4. a vacation at the beach of your choice
5. the warmth of a genuine hug
6. a sound night's sleep
7. a good report from a doctor
8. peace
9. the smell of a Spring rain
10. a cuddle with a loved one
11. a long awaited reunion
12. a cruise through the South Pacific
13. the rush of the wind through your hair as you speed along the countryside in your Mustang convertible
14. a par-tay!
15. a #1 song
16. an evening out with the girls (or boys!)
17. a sun kiss (the natural glow of being outdoors)
18. a bike ride through a gorgeou state park
19. a gallop on horseback
20. a Nobel prize winning platform

In spite of all this, blogging at Mindsay is a lot of fun!  :o  ;)

Basic Types of Mortgages

Here are some of the most common mortgage loans, along with information to help you decide which is right for you. 

Fixed-rate loan. If you've found a home you plan to live in for 10 to 30 years, consider a fixed-rate loan. It's predictable and stable since the interest rate is set for the full length of the loan. Because the monthly payment stays the same, planning a budget is easier.

Adjustable-rate loan. An adjustable-rate mortgage (ARM) usually starts with a lower initial interest rate than traditional fixed-rate loans. After a set initial payment period (usually 1, 3, 5, 7 or 10 years), the interest rate may change periodically (usually annually or semiannually) based on market conditions. As the rate changes, your monthly payment changes. ARM loans feature an adjustment "cap" or limitation on how much the interest rate can go up or down. This helps limit excessive changes in your monthly payment. 

Jumbo loans. These are loans for homebuyers who need larger loan amounts.

Loans for first time homebuyers. Often first time homebuyers can take advantage of FHA and VA government loans, as well as other programs based on income or property location. These mortgages sometimes require less income to qualify than traditional loans and may require little or no down payment.

Repayment schedule. Also consider how quickly you'd like to repay your loan -- within 15 years, 20 years, 25 years, 30 years? Do you want to make biweekly mortgage payments? Typically, the sooner you repay the loan, the more you'll save in interest payments. However, the longer you extend the term of your financing, the lower your monthly payments may be. So when choosing a loan term, consider your budget, your long-term spending patterns, your income over the life of the loan and how long you plan to stay in your home.

Not every type of mortgage is ideal for every person or situation. The next step is to determine which loan fits your situation best.  For that, you may need to consult a mortgage professional, an accountant, or your REALTOR.

NOTE:  This information is not intended to be legal advice. You should seek independent advice from trained professionals, for example, a lawyer and/or an accountant, etc., if you believe you need such advice.

Does this look like HOME? This is probably my favorite home style. Comfortable, roomy, practical with plenty of space for ... whatever requires space. ;)
Sq Ft: 2705
Bedrooms: 5 - Bathrooms: 3.5
Width: 78 feet - Depth: 47 feet

First floor blueprint. Room sizes are wonderful, yes... ?

Huge bedrooms! Just think of all the junk you could hide in those rooms! :P

hmmmmm I cannnot sleep. I even succumbed to the temptation for, ummm, fluff.

Your IQ Is 120

Your Logical Intelligence is Exceptional Your Verbal Intelligence is Exceptional Your Mathematical Intelligence is Exceptional Your General Knowledge is Exceptional

It's hot & sticky ... and my bed is full ... without me!  My daughter is there.  The dog is there.  And sadly, the daughter brought with her some , ummm, clutter.  On top of that ... a GOOD thing ... I received a VERY strange phone call from out of state ... out of the blue, asking me to list a gorgeous home?  Go figure!  I will meet them on Saturday when they arrive from out of town. 

The home is a nice listing: 4 bedrms, 3full/1 half bath; beautifully redone kitchen with large island; cherry cabinets & imported granite floor; huge sunroom w/heated floor; small, well-managed back yard, plenty of privacy. What is the rpicetag for such a treasure, you might ask?  $375k

In Pennsylvania, it is only recently that a prospective buyer could hire an agent to represent their side of the home buying transaction. What should a home buyer expect from a buyer's agent?

• Home buyers should be able to expect loyalty and confidentiality from their agent.
• The agent should promote your best interests and provide you with all available facts that could influence your decision about making an offer for a home. It is your responsibility, however, to let the agent know if they are meeting for information needs.
• A buyer's agent can offer research materials that help you make a realistic offer. They may even suggest numbers, but it is your money and your offer.
• A buyer's agent should give you the "what if" scenarios about the clauses in a contract. The agent may recommend additional contract contingencies to protect your interests.
• A buyer's agent should track and handle many of the day-to-day needs required to get to closing (such as inspections, helping you find a lender, tracking the progress of the loan, working with the closing attorney concerning any title issues).

An exclusive buyer agency agreement normally ties you to one agent. However, that agent is also tied to you! For the agent to receive his/her paycheck, they must find the home you seek. At any time, if you feel your agent is not doing his/her best in this regard, contact the agent first and let them know of your dissatisfaction. Most contracts may be dissolved by a letter to the broker, but this may be discussed also before signing the contract.

A non exclusive buyer agency lets you have multiple buyer agents without altering standard contracts, but most agents won't work in that capacity, because they may not get paid for their efforts on your behalf.

• The contract should cover a specific time period agreeable to both parties.
• The agreement should be in writing with both party signatures and dates. It should outline the expectations of both the buyer and the real estate agent.
• The agreement can be far-reaching or cover listings only in a specific geographical area.
• The contract should address agent compensation. Buyer's agents are usually paid a portion of the seller's commission at closing, but not always. Ask how agents are paid in your area. What if you buy a for sale by owner property? Will you pay the agent's commission? If not, get it in writing now.

Clarify any questions you may have before you sign.

Your Buyer's Agent

When you contact an agent and find one you believe you an work with satisfactorily, verify that the agent can work as a buyer's agent. Some choose not to, and some are prohibited by state law.

Ask the agent to explain the services you can expect from her/him as your buyer's agent.

It is acceptable to ask for a blank copy of the buyer agency contract and take a day or two to study it. If some aspects of the contract concern you, ask the agent to delete or alter them.

Find out how dual agency is handled, or if it is legal in your state.

Don't let anyone pressure you into signing an agreement that doesn't feel right.

Don't sign a buyer agency agreement until you know the agent is the right one for your needs. Interview a few, from different brokers, if possible. Some states allow agents to initially work under an oral buyer agency agreement, but you'll usually need to put it in writing before making an offer.

An alternative is to allow the agent to work as a seller's agent until you feel comfortable signing an agreement. Do not disclose confidential information to a seller's agent!

Just like in your profession, there are good agents and there are better ones. I cannot stress enough the importance of finding one you can work with comfortably. In most states, advertising and marketing expenses come out of the agent's pocket, and every "laborer is worthy of his/her hire". Remember that agents do a lot of work behind the scenes. This is what you pay them a commission to do. Make sure he/she is working for you. Don't be afraid of the buyer's contract. Just be smart and know what to expect.  :)

Happy hunting!

Home Purchase Information

A VA home loan must be used to finance your personal residence within the United States or its territories, but you have many choices regarding the type of home you purchase.

• Existing single family home.
• Townhouse or condo in a VA-approved project.
• New construction residence.
• A manufactured home and/or lot.
• Home refinances. Certain types of home improvements.*

Is there a Limit to the Amount I Can Borrow?
There is no set maximum for a VA loan, but lenders usually limit it to an amount that can be sold on the secondary market. Other budgetary limits come into play to establish affordability.

What is a Funding Fee?
A fee of two percent of the loan amount (2.75 percent for Reservists) is payable when the VA loan closes your loan, and can be included in the loan.

The fee is reduced if the veteran makes a downpayment of at least 5 percent.

Can I Get a Second VA Loan?
Yes. If your previous loan was made under previous entitlement guidelines, you may be eligible for an additional amount based on today's increased figures, even if the loan has not been paid in full.

Or, your entire entitlement may be restored to purchase another home:

• If the property has been sold and the loan paid in full, or if you have repaid the prior loan and still own the property.
• If a qualified veteran assumes your loan and agrees to substitute his or her entitlement for yours.

What's the UP side of a VA Loan? 

• 100% financing, no down payment loans are common.*  This is a big one, especially for first time buyers, although there are any number of new programs to help first time buyers.
• No Private Mortgage Insurance (PMI).
• No penalties if you prepay the loan.
• Competitive interest rates.
• Loan qualification is sometimes easier than if you were applying for a conventional loan.
• Sellers can pay all closing costs.

What is the down side of a VA Loan? 

• VA loans made prior to March 1, 1988, can be assumed with no qualifying of the new buyer. If a buyer of such a property defaults, the veteran homeowner may be liable for funds.
• Some sellers may be hesitant to work with someone who is acquiring a VA loan because of their past reputation of taking longer to process than conventional loans. While the time may still be a little longer, getting a VA loan is not the lengthy ordeal it once was.
• Sellers are often asked to pay a portion of closing costs, so they may not be eager to negotiate the sales price of the home.

The Veterans Administration Web site is an excellent resource for detailed information about VA guaranteed home loans. If you cannot find the answers to all of your questions there, be sure to contact your local or regional VA office.

~ Pilgrim's Journey ~

Have you noticed that life has it's ups and downs,
That sometimes it feels like you're losing ground,
And just when you think you can't take any more,
You hear the Lion's roar?

Have you been in the darkness, feeling lost and alone,
Consumed by the stillness, and darkness shown,
Then you notice a softness, or hear a small Voice,
And you know you must make a choice?

Do you follow the darkness and let your fears rise,
Embrace thoughts of aloneness and listen to lies,
Or let your heart hold to a sudden hope,
That comes as a rescue rope?

The afflictions are many along this path,
Dangers and troubles from birth to death,
But Joy overflowing and love untold,
Are also there to unfold.

To my simple mind it's easy to see,
My Maker knows who He wants me to be,
Like silver and gold, in the fire I'm tried,
But He's always close by my side.

Yes, life has it's ups and it's downs,
There are many laughs and many frowns,
But it all has a purpose and that's the big key,
To enjoy exactly who He wants me to be.

Yesterday, patiently, quietly she waited, pacing periodically just to fill the time.  Nothing happened.  Nothing.  The birds sang, the bees buzzed, the cat napped atop the covered hot tub in the sun.  Still nothing happened.  Her mind began to wonder ... what makes her different than tha others?  What is her motivation for being, for doing, for working?  Some are motivted by the craving for money ... More money ... MORE money.  Some are driven by the game itself, the deal, the "dance." 

She stood and once again began to pace around the home.  "No," she thought, "it is not money or the deal, or power or ... whatever else that drives me.  Very basically, it is the honest need to serve and in some small way to brighten the lives of the people I meet."  She smiled.  "I suppose this is a rare thing any more, but ... it is me."  Of course, money is nice too, but only if the needs have been justly met. 

She smiled again and sank again into the over-stuffed chair.  It was almost to time to lock up the home and head back to her home.  Although there was some sense of satisfaction is her self-discovery, there was also a very real frustration is the realization that not one potential buyer had come to her Open House.  Not one. 

As she met the seller at the door, one look and the seller hung her head and tears filled her eyes.  "Oh Barb!  What are we going to do?" 

She didn't know, but hugged the seller and smiled.  "We're not done yet!  Don't give up!  The buyer is out there.  We just have to find them. Keep believing ... :D

I'd be curious if anyone knows more about their system or any other one that WORKS better???

I'm so excited!  Here I was, just browsing the net, always on the lookout of great ideas, and WOOT!  This is what I found! 

Patio, Garden, or Sidewalk Lights (or anyplace else you can think of!)

1. Purchase some seabiscuit shells, which already have a small hole in the back just big enough to fit a tiny bulb.

   2.  Use hot glue to keep everything in place.

   3.  Plug in and voila! An ocean feeling even if you're far from the coast.  Cute, huh?

I am going to use this to line my front sidewalk this summer! I'll try to get some pics when I get it done! :)

I found this on Crosswalk.com someplace! When I went back to find the page, I couldn't find it ...??? hmmm Something spooky going on here! *shruggs* 

A guy was on the side of the road hitchhiking on a very dark night and in the middle of a storm. The night was rolling on and no car went by. The storm was so strong he could hardly see a few feet ahead of him.

Suddenly he saw a car coming toward him and stop.

Without thinking about it, the guy got into the back seat, closed the door and then realized there was nobody behind the wheel! The car started slowly; the guy looked at the road and saw a curve coming his way. Scared, he started to pray begging for his life. He hadn't come out of shock, when just before he hit the curve, a hand appeared through the window and moved the wheel. The guy, paralyzed in terror, watched how the hand appeared every time right before a curve.

Gathering his strength, the guy finally jumped out of the car and ran to the nearest town. Wet and in shock, he went to a restaurant and started telling everybody about the horrible experience he went through.

A silence enveloped everybody when they realized the guy was serious.

About half an hour later, two guys walked in the same restaurant. They looked around for a table when one said to the other,

"Look John, that's the dummy who got in the car when we were pushing it."

Am I the only person here that has not had a real vacation in, ummmm ... like 22 years???  ho hummmm ... Maybe next year!

I must confess that sometimes when I start thinking about things like this, I quickly get discouraged.  However, I have trained myself to see how far we have come back, too.  After the big D, we were left with NOTHING but a house, not a home, but a house in my mom's name.  Little furniture, no car,  a shattered caree, and we were all emotional wrecks!  That was 5 years ago.  It's totally true that I am impatient and continually have to remind myself to hold on. 

Today, we have a nice car, our house is MINE, the kids and I all have new beds, good dressers, plenty of clothes & shoes ... a new computer for my work & their homework & our mutual pleasure, utilities paid, no other debts.  I have begun making repairs & updates on the house.  I am happy with our progress ... but I want MORE! 

I want to be paid in full for our utilities.  I want to be able to take my kids to the coast before they leave home.  I want our house to be a HOME - not sure exactly what that means, but ...

I must go ... showing a little house to a single mom.  ;)

So ... here I am wrestling with my present and some of the "giants" coming my way.  Suddenly, it occurs to me that there are a few ghosts from the past also hanging around though uninvited.  So I made a visit to my old blog, some of you may remember her ... Seeresvelvet.  I went in search of treasure. 

Ahhhhhh the healing process.  The treasure I brought back is in poetry form and I will not post them here because they have been posted already.  They will be at RiverSoaker's pad.

Now there is an interesting issue ... RiverSoaker!  Named for her proximity to the Allegheny River, she has been around for some time, seen a few changes and evolutionary leaps.  There's a lot to read there.  Some good.  Some  ... ok.  I'm sure anyone who takes the time to visit will see some of my ghosts, but some of my heart is also there ... my passions and struggles.  Yes, there is still wrestling, I suppose, until the day I die.  That's just part of who I am.  I have received the label (from one of those wonderful online quizzes) of "Idealistic Philosopher" and I actually like that label.  It defines the vision quest side of me without calling me a female Don Quixote on a quest for the love of my life. 

Anyway ... Seeresvelvet is now gone, a memory healing quickly.  What remains is RiverSoaker, softened by time & still motivated by dreams, i.e velvetdreams.  I like her alot.  Though sometimes kinda airheaded, she is the best of a survivor, not hard or bitter, but fantasically feminine.  She is also a bulldog of tenacity in support of her kids, in pursuit of her career (which sometimes seems to elude her), but ever the optomist, she continues to climb, one step at time.  When she grows weary looking at the climb before her, she is learning to turn and see how far she has already come. 

Thanks to those of you who help me see ... :D

*Pics are the beautiful Allegheny River, taken from the trail that follows her pathway into the city of Pittsburgh. 

A. T. Pierson said: "Everyone has some gift, therefore all should be encouraged. No one has all the gifts, therefore all should be humble. All the gifts are for one Body, therefore all should be harmonious: All the gifts are needful, therefore all should be faithful."

OK ... Here it is ... I read someone's blog this morning ... 6/16/05 and it was about a movie ... BUT I DON"T REMEMBER WHO or WHAT MOVIE??????? 

*I'm so ashamed!*  Something about a divorced woman who moves ...???  Anyone know???  :D

My Dad & I didn't get along too well while I was growing up.  He just didn't know how to deal with me ... too emotional for Him.  I do have some special memories, though ... things that were special just between us. 

My Dad started in the Dairy Queen business when I was 2.  I vividly remember tagging along with Him on Saturdays and playing while He got the store open and running. 

As I got older, I used to fall asleep with my radio on (before they made 'sleep' buttons) and He would come in after closing and kiss me and turn off my radio.  It was my private time with Him ... sort of. 

I was / am a swimmer.  Swam competitively all through high school and college both speed & synchronized swimming and He NEVER missed a meet no matter what else was going on or where the meet took place. 

My dad passed away 11 Jan 1993.  There are several things I know about my Dad.

1. He loved Mom.  They were married 48 yrs before He died.  They had a good, healthy relationship - a rare thing any more.
2. He loved God.  He was not a religious Man or very verbal about His beliefs, but His life told His story clearly in the way He provided for His wife & family.
3. He loved His family.  He may not have always known specifically how to deal with me, but I have no doubts about His love.

The night He died, we found His notebook all prepared.  Life insurance, phone numbers for us to call, everything was ready and in order.  He planned well for Mom, too. 

Now they are together again.  Janna & I went to visit their vault today.  I miss them.  Dad was a rock for me and sometimes a really miss that.  Mom was a friend.   Janna and I both smiled though at the thought of them together forever. 

Thanks Mom & Dad.  What a great heritage you've passed on to us.  :D

Q: I've heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life. Is this true?

A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it. Everything wears out eventually. Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap.

Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?

A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a cow eat? Hay and corn. And what are these? Vegetables. So a steak is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system. Need grain? Eat chicken. Beef is also a good source of field grass (green leafy vegetable). And a pork chop can give you 100% of your recommended daily allowance of vegetable slop.

Q: Is beer or wine bad for me?

A: Look, it goes to the earlier point about fruits and vegetables. As we all know, scientists divide everything in the world into three categories: animal, mineral, and vegetable. We all know that beer and wine are not animal, and they are not on the periodic table of elements, so that only leaves one thing, right? My advice: Have a burger and a beer and enjoy your liquid vegetables.

Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio?

A: Well, if you have a body, and you have body fat, your ratio is one to one. If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc.

Q: At the gym, a guy asked me to "spot" for him while he did the bench press. What did he mean?

A: "Spotting" for someone means you stand over him while he blows air up your shorts. It's an accepted practice at health clubs; though if you find that it becomes the ONLY reason why you're going in, you probably ought to reevaluate your exercise program.

Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program?

A: Can't think of a single one, sorry. My philosophy is: No Pain-No Pain.

Q: Aren't fried foods bad for you?

A: You're not listening. Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. In fact, they're permeated in it. How could getting more vegetables be bad for you?

Q: What's the secret to healthy eating?

A: Thicker gravy.

Q: Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the middle?

A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach. I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about trying to live a longer and healthier life.

*DISCLAIMER:  This is a JOKE!  All information contained herein is to be considered FUNNY, but not necessarily TRUE. 

10 Steps You Must Take Before You Sell Your Home

The home selling process varies from state to state, but there are some important steps that you should take before you put your house on the market--all steps that protect your interests and help you get the most return from your investment.  NOTE:  Remember, in most places now in the USA, we are dealing with a "Buyer's Market".  This means there are more homes on the market to choose from so buyers can afford to be picky.  This is not true everyplace, like CA, FL, NY, but most places.  Check with a local REALTOR for more local infor on the housing market where you are. 

1. Get Pre-Approved for a Home Loan

I've known sellers who signed a contract to sell their house before they knew if they were qualified to buy another. Either their financial circumstances had changed since their last purchase, and they could no longer qualify for a loan, or they weren't able to sell at a price that allowed them to buy the type of replacement house they wanted. They ended up renting or buying something that was far from ideal.

Before you decide to sell the house, get pre-approved by a lender you trust and research the housing market in the area where you wish to live so that you have a good idea how much it will take to buy a replacement.  The best situation is to find a lender that will guarantee your rate in writing!  This also speeds up the home buying process.  If you plan to sell your home yourself (FSBO), note that this is where most deals fall apart. 

How To Start Researching
Start looking for two types of real estate: houses that seem to match the one you'd like to buy and houses that are similar to your current home.   If you own your current home, decide if it is necessary for you to sell before you can commit to another purchase. (REALTOR.com is a great place to begin.)

How do the two categories compare in price? Can you handle the difference if you're planning a step up? 

• Find homes in free For Sale publications, often available outside grocery and convenience stores.
• Search the Internet for homes for sale in your area and read real estate ads in your local newspapers. You won't find house locations without making phone calls, but browsing the general market will get you off to a good start.
• Visit Open Houses to see your competition and/or to see exactly what is available locally.

2. Check Your Mortgage Payoff

Call your lender to check the payoff for your current home mortgage. You'll need the figure to complete Step 6.

3. Determine How Much the House Is Worth

Real estate commission if you use an agency to sell. (Consider the advantages the agent/broker offer for the active marketing of your home)

4. Estimate Your Costs to Sell

• Real estate commission if you use an agency to sell.  (Consider thoughtfully the advantage of a good agent/broker and the marketing tools they make available.)
• Advertising costs, signs, other fees if you plan to sell by owner.
• Attorney, closing agent and other professional fees.  Shop around!  This can be a real variable.
• Excise tax for the sale.  Transfer stamps. 
• Prorated costs for your share of annual expenses, such as property taxes, home owner association fees, and fuel tank rentals.
• Any other fees typically paid by the seller in your area (surveys, inspections, local building codes, sewer dye tests etc.).
• Real estate agents deal with transactions every day and can give you a very close estimate of seller closing costs, but don't jerk their chain.  The preparation of these reports and cost sheets takes time and effort.  If you are not using an agent, don't ask too many "favors."

5. Determine Your Costs to Acquire a New Home

Deduct your mortgage payoff from your home's fair market value.

6. Calculate Your Estimated Proceeds

Deduct your costs to sell from the remainder to get an estimate of the proceeds you will be paid at closing.

Will your closing proceeds cover your costs to acquire a new home? If not, do you have cash or other funding to make up the difference?

7. Make Necessary Repairs

Make all needed repairs unless you want the house to be regarded as a fixer-upper. I'm not referring to cosmetic updates, but to items in need of repair. Anything that's obviously broken gives potential buyers a reason to submit a lower offer.

Double check mechanics (plumbing, electrical, furnace/a-c).  Check windows, chimney, doors, retaining walls, basement (mold, wetness, insects).

8. Get the House Ready to Show

Most houses need at least a little spiffing up before they are shown to potential buyers. Great curb appeal, fresh paint indoors (and sometimes out), organized closets and cabinets, sparkling clean windows and appliances, and a clutter-free atmosphere are essential if you want the house to appeal to buyers.

Smells are the greatest deterrant to a prospective buyer!  Ask neighbors or friends if they smell anything foul (pet smells, tobacco smells, food smells, moisture smells - these are the most common)

9. Get Psyched Up to Let People In

If you're listing with a real estate agent, she'll no doubt ask you to leave when the house is shown. Why? Because lurking sellers make buyers nervous--they don't feel comfortable inspecting the house when they feel they are intruding.

Unless there's a real reason for it, don't ask your agent to be present for all showings. That's the kiss of death for showing activity. Other agents want privacy with their buyers and they don't usually have time to work around your agent's schedule.

Make the house accessible.  We understand your home cannot be accessible 24/7, but ideally, it is good to be as ready as possible at any time.  Be sure to discuss this with your agent, if you are using one.

10. You're Ready to Sell. 

Once you have prepared your home,  done the marketing research (or had your agent do it), obtained your written guaranteed loan-approval letter, you are ready to SELL, SELL, SELL!!

*If you have any questions about this process or about what is contained in this article, please contact me, and I will try to help.  :D

• Job #2 - all night long at convenience store, suckssssssssss!
• daughter came along, just for fun! :P
• new shoes *groan*
• result in sore feet
• waaaaay sleepy
• must go to REAL job now
• no softball today! (see phsbum.mindsay.com for softball updates)
• piano lesson at 4
• Man ... am I dragging!
• Must go now
• Here I go ...
• Are ya watchin me go?
• I'm almost there.
• hmmmm top down or not?
• kinda hot, but ... sure!  top down
• later!

Never fear, all is well ... It's is not fun when both jobs stack on top of each other and softball fills in the gaps ... hmmmm?  What gaps?  Sleep is a figment of my imagination, or it comes in long, hesitating blinks ... but all is well  and this too shall pass!  :D 

Off to softball, then perhaps a few winks ... ?

Now ... just for a quick chuckle ...

Did you hear about the doctor who wrote out a prescription in the usual doctor's fashion?

The patient used it for two years as a railroad pass.

Twice it got him into Radio City Music Hall, and once into Yankee Stadium.

It came in handy as a letter from his employer to the cashier to increase his salary.

And to top it off, his daughter played it on the piano and won a scholarship to the Curtis Music Conservatory.  :P

Hi Mindsay friends!  Yes, I am still alive, sort of, but this double duty combined with the heat is too much!  I have not slept in 3 days, but mercifully, I am off tonight and tomorrow night. 

Any one here a mystery shopper?  :P

Down in Florida, there's a little hotel, four floors high. A girl used to take a sunbathe there every day. Since there were no higher hotels near it, she would take off her bathing suit and be in the nude.

So she was in the nude and she was lying on her stomach, and she heard someone coming up the steps. She quickly grabbed the towel and put it around her.

The man said, "I wish you wouldn't sunbathe in the nude up here." She said, "You never protested before." He said, "No, but I wish you would do it like you did before, in your bathing suit." She said, "Why do you care? No one can see."

He said, "Madam, you happen to be lying on the skylight of a dining room."

This is Falling Water, Frank Lloyd Wright's masterpiece in SW Pennsylvania. I cannot adequately describe the setting, but it is plush with vegitation, color and texture. I can easily see how it might inspire one to greatness! If you ever have a chance to see it, DO IT! :D

Buying a house isn't as difficult as you might think, even if you're short on funds--but you should approach the home buying process one step at a time, starting with your wants and needs. Grab a piece of paper and divide it into three columns. Prioritize! If you'll have a co-owner, have that person make a list too, but don't share ideas just yet.

Column 1, List Must-Have Features

• If the house must be located in a specific neighborhood or school district.
• If the house must have 3 bedrooms, a 2 car garage, a large kitchen, a view.
• If there must be no restrictions against a home-based business.
• If the home must be one level, with few or no steps.
• List every feature you feel is a must.

Column 2, List "wishes and dreams":

• A basement or a deck.
• Whirlpool tubs, walk-in closets.
• A certain type of architecture.
• Gas heat; central air
• List all features that are important to you--but that you might be flexible about.

Column 3, List Features You Do NOT Want:

• A home located next to a highway or in a congested area.
• Certain types of architecture.
• Homes that need a great deal of work.
• List all features you absolutely cannot accept. 

  Review your list. If your co-owner made a list, compare them to see if your priorities match. If they don't, you'll need to compromise, revising your lists so that both of you are happy.

  Making a list is a good exercise because it forces you to think about your wants and needs, but I can almost guarantee you that the list will change and evolve when you actually begin to look at houses. Even home buyers with an unlimited budget rarely find the "perfect" home.

  Before you head out to look at properties, get your finances in order. If you haven't reviewed your credit records, do it immediately. It isn't unusual for records to contain errors--and they can't be fixed overnight. Obtain a written loan guarentee.

  OK ... time to seek an agent. If you happen to know one in your area, get in touch and give him/her your lists. If you do not know anyone in the business, ask around, check newspapers, and most importantly, check the internet! At least 75% of home buyers shop the internet FIRST. If you're buying, it gives you an idea of what your money can buy. If you are selling, it gets you acquainted with your competition!

  My recommendation is to seek techno savvy agents whose brokers also put a value on technology, but you also want an agent who will communicate with you and work hard for you. This is Real Estate in the 21st Century!   :D  Happy hunting! 

This is the inside of Falling Water. It is so homey and beautiful, one wouold hardly imagine it a "breakthrough" piece of architecture!

Last September, many of us experienced some of the fury of hurricane Ivan.  Many homes and businesses locally were consumed by the flood waters that ravaged our area.  I mean, we have 3 rivers and a gazillion streams that flooded!!!  It was terrible, but most of this damage has been restored.  All over town, there have been celebrations on the completion of repairs or restorations. 

Makes me wonder ... hmmmm We say we have no money, but ... when hard pressed, we find it someplace!  :)

Our softball fields on 18 Sep 2004!

Many of you know of my daughter's interest in softball. We are currently in the midst of the WORLD SERIES Rangers vs Tigers   with each team with 1 win. Tonight is it! (Please stop by Janna's blog and wish her well! phsbum  She didn't have her best game last night.  ;)  )

There was much doubt locally as to the possibility of restoring these fields in time for our Spring 2005 season. The entire complex was under several feet of water. Fences, dugouts, and bleachers were washed away by the raging flood waters.  Refreshments, anyone???  (below)

BUT ... all it took was one glance at the faces of a few of the kids who play ... tears streaming spontaneously ...

It took nearly $60k to make the necessary repairs.  I stand impressed at the amount of generous donations that have been made thus far, both in cash & TIME. Thank You All!  A great deal of hard work has gone into these fields, and I'm sorry to say I had no part in it, but my schedule is full enough! I was touched by the donation of quality "dirt" donated by the Pittsburgh Pirate organization. The fields have been beautiful this year. (You can look for team pics on Janna's blog in the near future!) As a parent, it has been a genuine pleasure to participate with Janna.

Below are some aeriel pics of the fields NOW!

The complex toward the upper right (below) is the local High School where Janna is now a sophomore. There are 8 softball fields; 4 with flood lights for night games.

I have no clue howmany of you might be interested in this issue, but ... this is a good article for those who ARE intersted!    I have posted only a portion of it.  The entire article may be found HERE

The stock market rose sharply on the final day of February and the first Monday in March. Here's why:

http://www.stls.frb.org/docs/publications/usfd/page2.pdf (Note: charts from the St. Louis Fed are constantly being revised, but their Web addresses remain constant. All charts for this essay are dated before March 5, 2002.)

The Federal Reserve System is now pumping in new money at over 20% per annum. The St. Louis FED tracks the adjusted monetary base (AMB), which is the one monetary component that the FED's Open Market Committee can control. This is the statistic of the actual holdings of monetary reserve assets by the FED. Milton Friedman calls this "high-powered money" because it serves as the base for all of the other market-generated monetary units.

Because this is the one monetary component that the FED can control directly, this figure is the best indicator of what the FED's monetary policy is. The other monetary figures are the results of money-holders' allocation of assets into or out of the banking system.

The St. Louis FED not only graphs the AMB figure, it provides the numerical rate of growth in the box beneath the chart. Since December 26, the increase has been 20.3% on an annual basis. Since late February, 2001, it has been 9.7%. Since July 25 – before 9/11 – it has been 13.3%

There is no doubt that the FED is in full-scale inflationary mode. It is not just in double-digit mode, but 20%. I will be surprised if it stays this high for very long, but it is clear that Greenspan is willing to keep the rate above 10%.

I don't think Greenspan has increased the money growth rate to 20% in order to give a boost to the U.S. stock market. The stock market was not falling sharply, although it was heading down. He is concerned about the overall economy. He gets blamed for recession. We were in a recession last year, contrary to the financial press at the time. He has inflated us out of it. The manufacturing sector of the economy is at last positive, as reported the National Association of Purchasing Managers (now called ISM). But manufacturing employment continued to fall. ...............

Only one area of the economy stayed positive: housing starts/home sales. Here is the heaviest debt load for consumers. Housing is basically a long-term consumer good, heavily funded by mortgages. So, consumers have remained optimistic, long-term, but their employers have grown pessimistic at least with respect to the short term.

Consumers believe that the housing market will always rise. They think, "buy now, pay later." They think, "I can lock in low-interest fixed mortgage money today, and I'll pay it off with depreciated dollars." This strategy has worked ever since 1946.

The credit markets are supplying this money to borrowers. The mortgage market is presumed to be secured by the U.S. government, so Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac keeps making available mortgage money to borrowers. These enterprises are called GSE's or Government Sponsored Enterprises.

If mortgage holders think they can win at the expense of mortgage-issuers, why do people continue to put their money into pools of long-term mortgages? Because they think these pools of capital are government-guaranteed. They are looking for high returns short-term. They figure they can sell off their holdings later if rates climb. They think they can protect themselves against both default (because of a supposed government guarantee) and interest-rate risk (by selling to new buyers if rates go up). They assume that their investment will be liquid forever. .........................

I hope someone finds this helpful ... ;)

My Dad with my oldest daughter, my Son and my brother's step-daughter taken Christmas of 1986 (before Janna was born).

On a personal note, although our softball season is now finished (sob, sob), it is, naturally, time for reflection.  In addition to the successful season the girls had on the field, there have been some additional benefits of this time.

As a few of you may have read at one time or another, my brother and I have not always been close.  Not my choice, but ... I guess just a result of LIFE. 

I am the oldest (true to the firstborn stereotype) and my dear "baby" brother spent a good portion of his formative years playing "catch up" to me.  In my early life, I was a record setting swimmer; he tried but was not as good.  I was an award winning musician;  he tried but was not quite as good.  yada, yada, yada

When I graduated from high school, I left ... went away to Boston for college, then to the Army for 3 years, got out of the Army and stayed in Alaska for 3 years!  He partied out of college and decided (after I rejected the offer) to take over my Dad's business.  He lived at home until he was 31 and married my now sister-in-law (formerly my best friend).  Thus began a deep seated jealousy in him although I'm not sure he even wa aware of it. 

So anyway, he took over Dad's business and made a go of it ... He was NOT my Dad, but he is a businessman and it continued to be a profitable institution until 30 April 2005 when the doors closed for the last time.  Suffice it to say he received a 7 digit figure buy-out.  This, naturally, added fuel to the embers on my side,  not that I deserved a large chunk, but a token offering would have been appreciated.  After all, he knows how hard I'm having to work right now and how much my kids have had to do without ... but that's beside the point, I suppose. 

When I left home and made a go of my life with college and the Army etc, there were a few occasions when I fell on my face and needed help from Mom and Dad.  A couple hundred $$$ here and there.  This became another point of resentment for him while he played it safe and lived at home forever.  He doesn't see that he, too, was still dependent on Mom & Dad in a lot of ways.  He took over my Dad's VERY successful (successful financially AND it had also become part of the local culture!)  business.  Anyway, as in many families, MONEY has become a seperator. 

Over the course of this softball season, however, since they are no longer working, I was able to "visit" with them on a regular basis on neutral ground and with a mutual interest.  It has been good!  Last night, after coming in second for the season, we had our softball party ( at an $800+ home - whew!  What a home!)  I am hopeful that perhaps holidays dinners together can be revived and maybe more ... :D  My brother and I stioll have the money issues to work through, but ... I am hopeful that my own real estate career will get me to safe ground before too long. 

What Your Dreams Mean...

Your dreams seem to show that you're a very well adjusted and happy person. Overall, you are very content in your life. You have a very vivid imagination and a rich creative mind.

I needed a laugh this morning (or should I say this afternoon :P)  when I awoke.  Not down or depressed or anything ... just wanted to laugh, after all, it IS the best medicine for whatever ails ya, right?  ;)  Found these ... proof that real life is stranger than fiction!   Enjoy! 

Mary Louise Gilman, the venerable editor of the National shorthand Reporter has collected many of the more hilarious courtroom bloopers in two books - Humor in the Court (1977) and More Humor in the Court, published a few months ago. From Mrs. Gilman's two volumes, here are some of my favorite transquips, all recorded by America's keepers of the word:

Q. What is your brother-in-law's name?

A. Borofkin.

Q. What's his first name?

A. I can't remember.

Q. He's been your brother-in-law for years, and you can't remember his first name?

A. No. I tell you I'm too excited. (Rising from the witness chair and pointing to Mr. Borofkin.) Nathan, for God's sake, tell them your first name!

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Q. Now, Mrs. Johnson, how was your first marriage terminated?

A. By death.

Q. And by whose death was it terminated?

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Q. Ms, were you cited in the accident?

A. Yes Sir, I was so 'cited I peed all over myself!!

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Q. Doctor, did you say he was shot in the woods?

A. No, I said he was shot in the lumbar region.

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Q. What is your name?

A. Ernestine McDowell.

Q. And what is your marital status?

A. Fair.

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Q. Are you married?

A. No, I'm divorced.

Q. And what did your husband do before you divorced him?

A. A lot of things I didn't know about.

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Q. And who is this person you are speaking of?

A. My ex-widow said it.

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Q. How did you happen to go to Dr. Cherney?

A. Well, a gal down the road had had several of her children by Dr. Cherney, and said he was really good.

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Q. Do you know how far pregnant you are right now?

A. I will be three months November 8th.

Q. Apparently then, the date of conception was August 8th?

A. Yes.

Q. What were you and your husband doing at that time?

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Q. Mrs. Smith, do you believe that you are emotionally unstable?

A. I should be.

Q. How many times have you committed suicide?

A. Four times.

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Q. Doctor, how many autopsies have you performed on dead people?

A. All my autopsies have been performed on dead people.

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Q. Were you acquainted with the defendant?

A. Yes, sir.

Q. Before or after he died?

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Q. Officer, what led you to believe the defendant was under the influence?

A. Because he was argumentary and he couldn't pronunciate his words.

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Q. What happened then?

A. He told me, he says, "I have to kill you because you can identify me."

Q. Did he kill you?

A. No.

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Q. Mrs. Jones, is your appearance this morning pursuant to a deposition notice which I sent to your attorney?

A. No. This is how I dress when I go to work.

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THE COURT: Now, as we begin, I must ask you to banish all present information from your minds, if you have any.

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Q. Did he pick the dog up by the ears?

A. No.

Q. What was he doing with the dog's ears?

A. Picking them up in the air.

Q. Where was the dog at this time?

A. Attached to the ears.

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Q. When he went, had you gone and had she, if she wanted to and were able, for the time being excluding all the restraints on her not to go, gone also, would he have brought you, meaning you and she, with him to the station?

MR. BROOKS: Objection. That question should be taken out and shot.

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Q. And lastly, Gary, all your responses must be oral. O.K.?What school do you go to?

A. Oral.

Q. How old are you?

A. Oral.

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Q: What is your relationship with the plaintiff?

A: She is my daughter.

Q: Was she your daughter on February 13, 1979?

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Q: Now, you have investigated other murders, have you not, where there was a victim?

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Q: ...and what did he do then?

A: He came home, and next morning he was dead.

Q: So when he woke up the next morning he was dead?

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Q: So, after the anesthesia, when you came out of it, what did you observe with respect to your scalp?

A: I didn't see my scalp the whole time I was in the hospital.

Q: It was covered?

A: Yes, bandaged.

Q: Then, later on.. what did you see?

A: I had a skin graft. My whole buttocks and leg were removed and put on top of my head.

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Q: Could you see him from where you were standing?

A: I could see his head.

Q: And where was his head?

A: Just above his shoulders.

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Q: What can you tell us about the truthfulness and veracity of this defendant?

A: Oh, she will tell the truth. She said she'd kill that sonofabitch- and she did!

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Q: Do you drink when you're on duty?

A: I don't drink when I'm on duty, unless I come on duty drunk.

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Q: ...any suggestions as to what prevented this from being a murder trial instead of an attempted murder trial?

A: The victim lived.

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Q: Are you sexually active?

A: No, I just lie there.

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Q: Are you qualified to give a urine sample?

A: Yes, I have been since early childhood.

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Q: The truth of the matter is that you were not an unbiased,objective witness, isn't it. You too were shot in the whole ordeal?

A: No, sir. I was shot midway between the ordeal and the naval.

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Q: What is the meaning of sperm being present?

A: It indicates intercourse.

Q: Male sperm?

A. That is the only kind I know.

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Q: (Showing man picture.) That's you?

A: Yes, sir.

Q: And you were present when the picture was taken, right?

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Q: Was that the same nose you broke as a child?

A: I have only one, you know.

President Ronald Reagan was probably one of the most significant Presidents we've had in many years.  He is one of my personal favorites.  Only a well adjusted individual is able to laugh at themselves!  I have great respect for the man and the job he did as President, but this post is not about that ... but about his slips of tongue!  Enjoy!

Ronald Reagan Quotes:

• "The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: 'I'm from the government and I'm here to help.'"
• "Republicans believe every day is 4th of July, but Democrats believe every day is April 15."   (ain't that the truth!)
• "The taxpayer ... that's someone who works for the federal government but doesn't have to take a civil-service exam."
• "I've noticed that everyone who is for abortion has already been born."
• "My fellow Americans. I'm pleased to announce that I've signed legislation outlawing the Soviet Union. We begin bombing in five minutes." –joking during a mike check before his Saturday radio broadcast
• "It's true hard work never killed anybody, but I figure, why take the chance?"
• "I hope you're all Republicans." -speaking to surgeons as he entered the operating room following a 1981 assassination attempt
• "Honey, I forgot to duck." -to his wife, Nancy, after surviving the assassination attempt
• "I am not worried about the deficit. It is big enough to take care of itself."
• "I have left orders to be awakened at any time in case of national emergency — even if I'm in a Cabinet meeting."
• "The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: 'I'm from the government and I'm here to help.'"
• "Well, I learned a lot....I went down to (Latin America) to find out from them and (learn) their views. You'd be surprised. They're all individual countries"
• "I don't know. I've never played a governor." –asked by a reporter in 1966 what kind of governor he would be
• "Facts are stupid things." –at the 1988 Republican National Convention, attempting to quote John Adams, who said, "Facts are stubborn things"
• "Trees cause more pollution than automobiles."
• "All the waste in a year from a nuclear power plant can be stored under a desk."
• "They say hard work never hurt anybody, but I figure why take the chance."
• "There is absolutely no circumstance whatever under which I would accept that spot. Even if they tied and gagged me, I would find a way to signal by wiggling my ears." –on possibly being offered the vice presidency in 1968
• "You can tell a lot about a fella's character by whether he picks out all of one color or just grabs a handful." –explaining why he liked to have a jar of jelly beans on hand for important meetings
• "I want you to know that also I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit, for political purposes, my opponent's youth and inexperience." -during a 1984 presidential debate with Walter Mondale
• "The state of California has no business subsidizing intellectual curiosity." –responding to student protests on college campuses during his tenure as California governor
• "Approximately 80 percent of our air pollution stems from hydrocarbons released by vegetation, so let's not go overboard in setting and enforcing tough emission standards from man-made sources."
• "Recession is when your neighbor loses his job. Depression is when you lose yours. And recovery is when Jimmy Carter loses his."
• "We are trying to get unemployment to go up, and I think we're going to succeed."
• "As a matter of fact, Nancy never had any interest in politics or anything else when we got married."
• "I've noticed that everyone who is for abortion has already been born."
• "I'm afraid I can't use a mule. I have several hundred up on Capitol Hill." –refusing a gift of a mule
• "What we have found in this country, and maybe we're more aware of it now, is one problem that we've had, even in the best of times, and that is the people who are sleeping on the grates, the homeless who are homeless, you might say, by choice."
• "How are you, Mr. Mayor? I'm glad to meet you. How are things in your city?" –greeting Samual Pierce, his secretary of Housing and Urban Development, during a White House reception for mayors
• "My name is Ronald Reagan. What's yours?" –introducing himself after delivering a prep school commencement address. The individual responded, "I'm your son, Mike," to which Reagan replied, "Oh, I didn't recognize you."
• "Politics is just like show business. You have a hell of an opening, you coast for awhile, you have a hell of a closing."
• "What does an actor know about politics?" –criticizing Ed Asner for opposing American foreign policy
• "What makes him think a middle-aged actor, who's played with a chimp, could have a future in politics?" -on Clint Eastwood's bid to become mayor of Carmel
• "How can a president not be an actor?" -when asked "How could an actor become president?'
• "Politics is supposed to be the second-oldest profession. I have come to realize that it bears a very close resemblance to the first."

............... in pursuit of real ... true ... deep ... intimacy ...............

"How do you use your eyes?"

Kindness encourages. It has been said that for every negative statement made to another person, it will take seven positive affirmations to heal the wound. Perhaps it’s time to re-evaluate the our humor and become advocates for others. This seems especially true for our children.

How many of us have wounds that have been inflicted ... "with good intention"?  Just look around mindsay, and it's easy to spot those who believe less than TRUTH about themselves.   Why is it easier for us to believe the negative than the positive?  Mostly likely, because we HEAR or PERCEIVE the negative more often than the positive.    Some of may even be conditioned to respond to a compliment with, "OK, what do you want from me?"

How sad!  I have just celebrated my 52nd birthday!  (the best so far!)  I am forming the "Atta-Girl/ Atta-Boy Club" at home with my kids and their friends & neighbors, but it can extend to the Mindsay community as well, if anyone wishes.   The rules are simple.   I will ....

1. Think BEFORE I speak.
2. Curb my negative feelings, or speak them honestly and respectfully TO the person involved.
3. Wisely search for positive, honest words to speak. 

That's it!  Look around ... the movies, TV and of course, peers are all in destruct mode ... usually as a way to make themselves look and FEEL better.  Competition is fierce!  Some teenage girls won't even think of going outside their rooms without makeup on.  Heaven help those who don't LOOK like the OC cast! (or their parents!)

Our beloved Hollywood (et al) have created these unrealistic stereotypes for all of us ... and we LET them!  Yes, it's somehow more entertaining to watch someone like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt than say ... the neighbors across the street ... or is it?  hahahaha

Isn't it OK that you and I don't look anything like these starlets?  As adults, it is probably PAST time we start communicting this to our children.   I think we can make a positive difference just by following the 3 little rules above

Soooooooooooooo ... Here is my list of 10 Great Things about Summer:

1. ummmm watermelon!!!
2. swimming, boating, water skiing and other water sports!
3. natural suntan (obtained carefully, of course!)
4. beautiful flowers in bloom
5. picnics & BBQ's with friends & family
6. loud, crackly thunderstorms
7. juicy fruits - peaches, nectarines, plums, strawberries, blueberries, blackberries ... mmmm
8. softball (or, maybe AAA baseball!)
9. outdoor concerts
10. top down on the 'Stang almost everyday!!! 

OK ... that's my list.  What did I miss???   Give me at least 1 of your fav's!  :D

You are elegant, withdrawn, and brilliant. Your mind is a weapon, able to solve any puzzle. You are also great at poking holes in arguments and common beliefs. For you, comfort and calm are very important. You tend to thrive on your own and shrug off most affection. You prefer to protect your emotions and stay strong.

Planning a visit to Pittsburgh? Before you come, make sure to get out your maps, decide what you want to do and see and, check with someone who lives there if you cannot understand the following exchange between Pittsburghers Don and Howard, you may want to learn a new language!

Howard: Hey Dawn,jeet jet?

Don: What?

Howard: I axst, jeet jet?

Don: Na, j’ew? Hauscome don’t we go dahn dahntahn fer a cut of Vinnie Pie.

Howard: No, lets go to S'liberty or Mahnt Lebo fer a cole Ahrn and a sammitch, maybe some pigs in a blanket or a perogie n'at.

Don: Yea, I love dem hunkey han grenades. Let’s git some chipped chopped ham at Islays n’at too.

Howard: After we eat, we needs to git us a comera. I want to take some pitchers at da Stillers game today.

Don: It’s clahdy and looks like it might rain - make sure yinz bring yinzes rubbers too.

Howard: Shoot, we got a flat. Do yinz have a tahr arn in da car?

Don: Yea, in da trunk under da worsh cloth, next to the gum bands n’at.

Howard: Yinz rilly need to red up this trunk.

Don: Hey, stop jaggin me, Hahrd. Which way do we go to git dahn to Three Rivers, by da way?

Howard: Through da tube... Can we stop at da O? I’m still hungry.

Don: As long as yinz share n'at... I miss da good old days, wit Erboto Clmentee – he was one of da best players da Pa-ritz ever ad.

Howard: Yea... Jano, lets go see da Gwins instead dahn arena. Lah-Muuuuuu is playin.

Don: Oakel-Doakel... Jimminy Christmas, this traffic is whoreible. Wheres we at? East Picksburg?

Howard: No, Sahside stupid. Jest follow that old mill hunky wid is blinker on.

If you aren't a Pittsburgh native, that conversation probably didn't make much sense to you. Well, believe it or not, I grew up in Pittsburgh, and I even had trouble with some of the lingo, known affectionately as Pittsburghese. While not all Picksbergers (oops, that’s Pittsburghers) speak like this, to many long time residents, especially those who grew up in the steel towns along the Monongahela River, this is the Queens English.

No one is really sure where Pittsburghese came from. Much of it is the ethnic mix of Pittsburgh, which is really a quintessential melting pot of the gateway to the west. We have Germans, Poles, Italians, Slovaks, and a dozen other nationalities that all settled where the three rivers come together.

These local idioms are pervasive in all sections of Pittsburgh culture, however, not just in the mill towns. I always make sure I redd up (tidy up) my room. When the floor 'needs swept' I pull out the sweeper (vacuum). I even wash dishes with dish soap (dishwashing liquid). I can’t stand when my neighbors get too nebby (nosy), my mailman uses gum bands (rubber bands) to bundle my mail and I enjoy an occasional Ahrn (Iron City beer). I definitely drive my wife nuts with these and no doubt countless other Pittsburghese. But these are the terms everyone uses, aren't they? Apparently not, as I recently received some quizzical looks and even a few snickers when asking a sales person in a department store in Dallas for ‘rubbers’ (galoshes).

As a kid, I used to have arguments with neighbor kids concerning the 'r' in wash!  I remember finding it in the dictionary and showing her that it did not have an ‘r’ in it (we always said warsh – as in warsh cloth). Fortunately, most of my idioms are just quirks, compared to some die-hard Pittsburghers that start every sentence with ‘Yinz’ (you ones), and end them with “n’at” (and that). Then again, I guess I cringe when I hear someone, who wants a soft drink, ask for a soda. Of course, we all know that a soft drink is ‘pop’, and a soda is really a flavored, carbonated beverage (like root beer) with ice cream in it.

Well, scratch my back with a hacksaw, I hope to see you all in da ' Burgh at some point! Learning Picksburgese is easier than you might think. Once yinz guys git into tahn, pump an Ahrn or two, ave some pigs-n-a-blanket and a chipped ham sammich n’at, yizzel be old pros! Well, ‘nuff fer now. Elvis has left the building. Just remember, it’s a ‘Burgh thing! ;)

      As I feel all eyes burning through me, I struggle for the courage to step up to the microphone on this night of confessions    ...   *inhaling deeply and scanning the room for friendly faces.  Eyes Midnightfriend and Wendyinchicago!  Nod shyly and clear my throat.*     

     Today, for the first time that I can recall, I was pushed to the point of flipping off another driver.  There, I said it!  I admitted it!  AND, what's more, I called him a bad word!

     I notice many people whispering and even chuckling to one another. 

      No, really!  I was driving through a nearby town during rush hour,  although traffic was moving pretty well by this time.  We had just finished eating and were on our way home.  We stopped at the red light patiently awaiting our turn to proceed.  The light changed and I pushed the gas pedal ... oooops not in gear.  Quickly, deftly, I slide the gear shift into first, but not before some jackass toots his horn over this 5 second (max) delay.  OK ... I just look at him and go on ... Next light ...green means go ... ok ... Next light; red!  OK  stop ... wait ...looooooong light, take it out of gear to rest my clutch foot!  GREEN!!!  Oh geee ... in gear ...  BEEEEEEEEEP!!! 

Now, the temptation was to stomp on the brake and just sit there and in a safer day & age, perhaps I would have, but ya never know today ... But the same yikkie beeped again ... Unfreaking believable! 

I've probably been in this situation a dozen times before but today, it got ot me.  Why?  Not sure.  Could be the trickle down effect of my frustration from the bombings this morning.  Could be the stress of a friendly take-over in my conveneince store employment and all that will mean.  Culd just be tht I awoke extra early this morning for no apparent reason and couldn't go back to sleep.  You see, any number of factors could be blamed, but the bottom line is ... I lost my temper and I embarassed myself in front of my daughter who has seen me angry, but not like that. 

Now I know many of you will just laugh ... but of course, I started thinking just how foreign the thoughts are of those that perptrate terroristic attacks ... or are they?  Sandyquill  shared from her heart today saying,  "There is no way we can stop the inhumanity until we are more concerned about the life and well being of others more than we are of our own." 

... How different are we really?  It's easy to become self-righteous and say we'd never blow someone up, but I wrote about the power of our words just the other day ... The power of Life and Death is in the tongue!  Our words either bring life or they bring death ... There is no in between. 

I don't know what the solution is to the terrorists, but I'm sure the we/them mentality is not the answer.   I have trained my children that maturity begins when Self is no longer the center of our vision and energy.   We cannot change anyone but ourselves.  Maybe, just maybe if enough of us actually begin to live this way ... to genuinely put the needs of others before our own needs (or maybe even with our own needs), maybe then we'll have a chance to get beyond this madness.   Maybe ...

What I know is ... religions and philosophies cannot be used as weapons OR an avenue of escape.  Human nature is the problem and we somehow have to conquer our base nature and get past it. 

 ... yup ... all because I lost my temper en route home this evening!  ;)

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I suppose I'm kinda feelin my "oats", as gramma used to say, and writing somewhat uncustomarily, but I get so tired of the picking and grinning, the second guessing we all do in regards to world events.   I don't know about other countries, but as for this country,  we are like sheep lead blindly by whatever the media presents to us.  They call it truth, but it is just as lopsided as it was during Viet Nam ... maybe more so.   We promised, at least many of us did, that we wouldn't let the 70's happen again with the shame and degradation we put on our returning soldiers.  And yet, we are doing it again.  We are putting shame on the military and their families just because they are brave enough to fight for the US and her interests. 

Just because the media of the major networks (CBS, ASC, NBC, CNN, et al) do not support the policies of the President, they have subtly manipulated public opinion by the "truth" they choose to print and not print.  The policies of the President are one thing ... fair game to oppose or support, BUT there are thousands of Americans and others voluntarily fighting and dying for a number of reasons ... freedom for Iragi people, oil, pride, and to stand up to the terrorist "bullies", to name a few.  Whether or not we agree with our President is one thing,  but these men and women need to know they have a nation that will embrace them when they return and not shun them like we did in the 70's.  Two separate issues!  Think about it ...

I have a dear friend who is a psych nurse at a major hospital and we had breakfast this morning.  Among other things,  we talked about an 8 yr old boy who is now under psychiatric care primarily because he has been made to feel ashamed of his Dad who is fighting in Iraq.  She sees it all the time now ... vets or family members coming in steeped in shame, not because of their actions per se, but for feeling repulisve and unwelcome by their former community instead of being welcomed home as brave soldiers. 

GW ... love Him or hate him ... your call, but our military families need our support, our unconditional support.  Can we really afford to reject another generation of soldiers just because their hands are tied the politicians?  As I see it, we all sink or we all swim.   Good grief, it's time to grow up and shoulder the responsibility of the favor we've enjoyed in this country.   It wasn't free.  It came with a pricetag paid by previous generations and now being asked of us.   Whether or not you think we should be in Iraq or Afghanistan or ...wherever is not the issue.  We are there.   What is the proper response?  Do you get it? 

~ When I Wish Upon a Star ~

3/23/05 bjb

When I wish upon a star,
It's not to find out where we are,
It's not to learn what my day will hold,
It's not about money, or gems, or gold.

When I wish upon a star,
It's because I do know who we are,
I know what lifts and builds our hearts,
And I know what tears it all apart.

When I wish upon a star,
I sometimes think we've gone too far,
Too far away from kindness and caring,
Into a world of privacy and not daring

To be kind and caring to those we meet,
To those at work or those in the street,
Such sophistocation, such isolation.
Can we go back to a friendlier persuasion?

Can we see beyond our own fence,
And begin to use some common sense,
And realize the reasons for our global mess,
All start within our own defense?

Can we change our point of view,
And realize our neighbors are people too?
We're all the same down deep inside,
We all need faith, hope, and love to abide.

How do people change?  Or perhaps better phrased, which is more likely to inspire individuals (you) to change or to make an effort to change? 

• Option 1:  Hollering, screaming, finger-pointing, ranting, mockery, embarassment, humiliation, intimidation, put-downs, unrealistic expections
• Option 2:  encouragement, support, affection, nuturing, 'atta-boys/girls', hope, honesty, respect, understanding, 'permission to be real', realistic goals

What works for you?  I'm a first-born with some typical first-born traits:  high expectations, work-a-holic tendencies, bossy & sometimes controling, but I learned by experimentation what works with my three very different children is giving them the freedom to be themselves.  In other words, genuine support and encouragement.  As my Mom used to say, "you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."  Not sure why anyone would WANT flies, but ... :P

I encourage you to think back through your own life and determine which of these you respond better to and then ... pass it on.  :D

You're Siddhartha!
by Hermann Hesse
You simply don't know what to believe, but you're willing to try anything once. Western values, Eastern values, hedonism and minimalism, you've spent some time in every camp. But you still don't have any idea what camp you belong in. This makes you an individualist of the highest order, but also really lonely. It's time to chill out under a tree. And realize that at least you believe in ferries.
Take the Book Quiz at the Blue Pyramid.

You are a Black Coffee

At your best, you are: low maintenance, friendly, and adaptable At your worst, you are: cheap and angsty You drink coffee when: you can get your hands on it Your caffeine addiction level: high

You're a Jellyfish!
It seems that no matter how hard you try to conceal yourself and your thoughts, everything is still in plain view for others to see. Nonetheless, you have a knack for keeping people from exploiting this advantage by using your sharp wit and disorienting charm. You have long limbs and you know how to use them. While you frequently seem drawn to the beach, you should avoid it at all costs.
Take the Animal Quiz at the Blue Pyramid.

I got this from Cassz, AKA rockinofthesky 

I AM NOT: lazy!  ;)
I HURT: from my knees down, at the moment! 
I LOVE: my kids!
I HATE: apathy
I HOPE I MARRY: AFTER I fall in love next time.
I HEAR: music
I CRAVE: sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep
I REGRET: one decision, but only partially
I CARE:  too much sometimes
I ALWAYS: try to please others
I FEEL ALONE: once in a while
I LISTEN: to my heart and my head
I HIDE: very little
I SING: not as often as I used to ... and this is a sad thing to me. 
I DANCE: seldom
I WRITE: daily
I BREATHE: on a regular basis! 
I PLAY: not often enough!
I MISS: my social life
I FEEL: really sleepy
I KNOW: nothing!

I SAY: what's on my mind ... unless it is hurtful and then I keep it to myself. 
I SUCCEED: You tell me?
I FAIL: to live up to others' expectations, but that's OK with me!
I DREAM: yes ... I still do!
I SLEEP: very little.
I WONDER: about many things ... :)
I WANT: to quit my job at the convenience store!
I WORRY: about the future more than I should
I HAVE: great riches in my kids!
I GIVE:  more than asked
I FIGHT: like a mamma grizzley when it concerns my kids!
I WAIT: usually imaptiently!
I NEED: to sell a few more homes!
I AM: really sleeeeeeeeeeeepy!

I THINK: too much for my own good

Well now! I took this same quiz a few days ago ... Ohhhh the difference a few days makes, hmmm? From Jellyfish to rabbit? Hmmmm is that evolution? :P

You're Watership Down!
by Richard Adams
Though many think of you as a bit young, even childish, you're actually incredibly deep and complex. You show people the need to rethink t
heir assumptions, and confront them on everything from how they think to where they build their houses. You might be one of the greatest people of all time. You'd be recognized as such if you weren't always talking about talking rabbits.
Take the Book Quiz at the Blue Pyramid.

Me Easter 1959

Sometimes, my way seems so clear,

So divinely inspired,

I can skip & play as a child.

Sometimes I wonder aimlessly

In circles going nowhere,

Impatiently, smiling as I go.

Sometimes I glimpse success

And run with all I am

Only to lose sight of the trail

In my jubulence and thrill.

Sometimes I feel alone,

Surrounded by hands

Reaching out in need,

Frustrated and lacking.

Sometimes I miss a hand to hold,

Sad for wasted years, and

Hoping for youth restored.

Sometimes confidence bubbles in me,

Then I second guess myself

And laugh at my presumption.

Then again, I recognize the image

Of the little girl,

Wide-eyed and filled with wonder,

Overflowing with zest for life.

One of the things that I do often with my youngest daughter is go to the movies on a Saturday afternoon when her friends are working and I am off, but too drained to SHOP! ;)  With our newly adjusted family dynamic groaning with growing pains, I took BOTH girls to see "The Wedding Crashers".  OI!  I suppose if I had been completely alert, I would have foreseen the potential for awkwardness here, but ...

The movie is about to nearly middle aged guys (neither boys nor men) who have heretofore made a living crashing weddings with phoney IDs and each finding an available female with whom to copulate. 

Perhaps if I had not been with my daughters (aged 22 & 15), I would have seen it differently.  But I was with my daughters and was torn between the delayed coming of age tale and condoning irresponsible sex.  That mixed with the updated version of sibling rivalry going on under our roof made for a not-so-pleasant afternoon. 

I have had open and honest conversations with both my girls (and my son) and have laughed and cried with each of them over life's love vs sex lessons, and certainly don't consider myself a prude, but there's something about seeing sexual situations on the big screen, with them, that simply made ME uncomfortable.  I have not had the opportunity to discuss it with them, but ... that is for tomorrow.  I just get militant about the cheapening of sex and the lack of self-respect in movies and on TV.  grrrrrrr Too many women, in particular, are brainwashed into believing they must belong to a man to be of any value or for life to be complete.  In other words, we sell ourselves waaaaaaaaay short, girls! 

*shaking head ... refusing to climb all the way onto the soapbox ... for now* 

I saw this on yahoo, I think and thought it was a cool pic! hahahaha in a "wide-eyed wonder" kinda way! :P

Water vapor builds up around an U.S. Navy F/A-18F Super Hornet as it breaks the sound barrier during a fly-by near the aircraft carrier USS Kitty Hawk (CV 63) in this military handout photo taken July 27, 2005. Kitty Hawk and embarked Carrier Air Wing 5 are currently conducting operations in the Philippine Sea. The Hornet is attached to Strike Fighter Squadron 102 of Naval Air Facility Atsugi, Japan. Kitty Hawk is home ported in Yokosuka, Japan. REUTERS/HO/US Navy/Petty Officer 3rd Class Jonathan Chandler

Carnegie Mellon University announced Thursday that it has spun off a new technology company, Pervasive Sensors Inc., bringing its total number of spinoffs to 15 in the past four years.

The new company, based in Pittsburgh, will make computer-based temperature sensors, called Critters, that will monitor and mitigate temperature problems in computer hard drives.

"Esentially, what we are doing is saving the life of the compter hard drive and preventing costly down time," said Michael Bigrigg, a project scientist for the Institute for Complex Engineered Systems and the CMU researcher who is starting the company. "Hard drives get hot, and the sensor is designed to pick up temperature variations."

Each Critter will cost $21 and attach directly to a desktop computer's game port. Funding for the company came in part from the state's Department of Community and Economic Development and the Pennsylvania Infrastructure Alliance program. The technology stems from two years of research at CMU.

Between 2001 and 2005, CMU researchers spun off 15 companies which have employed more than 100 in the Pittsburgh region and secured $40 million in seed capital, according to the Center for Technology Transfer at Carnegie Mellon.

© 2005 American City Business Journals Inc.

Today is a day for changes!  :D  It is excrutiatingly hot here which made me think of a cool watermelon ... again!  ...   mmmmm yes!  ;)

Now that we're cooled off, I also had some change in one of my workplaces.  The convenience store has been bought out by one of the large grocery store chains in the area.  It is actually the #1 retail company locally and the #22 retail company nationally!  (WOOHOO!!!)  Today, however, was a day of changes ... transitions. 

• First, I had to work 8 am - 4 pm instead of my usual graveyard shift.  This is probably a good thing at least as far as sleep is concerned.  I only work 3 nights a week and I have now asked to make those 3 days, if possible. 
• Then, I had to work with the company "bitch" ... Now, those of you who know me at all, know that I do not use that term loosely!  This woman has chosen to be miserable and to do her best to bring others down with her.  She really has no business working customer service ... but anyway ... I not only survived, but ... with smile in tact! :P
• The hard part was that we really had very little to do ... very little to sell.  We had the new computer system to learn which took about 5 minutes.  There was no coffee, although they were working on the installation most of the day.  We had no sandwichs  or hot dogs to sell.  In fact, about all there is to sell is chips and candy bars ... and fountain drinks! 

Ohhhhhhhh well ... onward and upward, hmmm?  ;)

Some people call all real estate agents "Realtors" without realizing that not every agent can legally use the title. When real estate agents become Realtors they must agree to conduct their business in a way that adheres to the rules of the National Association of Realtors, NAR, and that includes abiding by the organization's Code of Ethics. Agents benefit by becoming a Realtor, consumers benefit by using one to buy real estate.

Local groups of agents who have banded together in order to share listings more effectively are called Multiple Listing Services, or MLS for short. Most of those groups are affiliated with their state and national REALTOR associations and typically require all MLS agents to become members of both of those groups.

Agents pay dues to their state and local REALTOR organizations. They also pay fees to become and maintain members of their local MLS.

Realtors can file complaints against each other and the organization accepts complaints from consumers. Complaints can affect membership status and fines can be levied against an agent who is found guilty of wrongdoing by a multi-member panel of their peers.

The organization does not have the ability to suspend a real estate license—that action can only be accomplished by the real estate licensing commission that granted it. 

All licensed agents are required to take continuing education courses approved by their state licensing boards. To retain membership in the NAR, REALTORS are required to take additional continuing ed classes, often focusing on ethical work habits and other consumer protection topics. The extra education is a plus for consumers who use a REALTOR to buy or sell real estate. 

You can learn more about what it means to be a REALTOR by going to NAR's website

Early morning

Another hot ... hot day has dawned in Pittsburgh and her suburbs.  The rivers will be filled with pleasure crafts of all sizes and shapes.  The Univ of Pittsburgh's crew team has already swept upstream this morning and back down about noon hugging the shore.

By mid-afternoon, the river is packed for pleasure in some places!

When I was younger, my parents had boats, and I always enjoyed sitting as far out on the bow as they'd permit ... usually on the very tip with my legs hanging over the edge.  I loved it out there ... The Allegheny River is really beautiful, and I remember feeling compassion for those among us who are not sighted to see its lovliness.  Often I would sing from this vantage point, most often Carole King songs ... Way Over Yonder or Tapestry. :)

Now, I drive back and forth across the various local bridges a dozen times a day and never do I fail to gaze up and down stream.   I don't have occasion to sail her waters at this point, but ... who knows.  Maybe one day I will again, hmmm?  ;)

Neat website ... How to ... ANYTHING!

I am restless, and when I am restless, my mind wonders a million miles a minute!  hahahaha  or so it seems.  I know changes are coming.  The obvious ones of school, but my feel is that bigger changes are forthcoming.

So ... These are questions that filled my mind upon awakening this morning.  :]  Not sure why ... well, maybe I am.  My best friends in the world are such because they exemplify unbiased, unconditional love, first to one another, then to their family, and finally to EVERYONE!  They are excellent friends.  They are excellent people who live what they profess.  They have (sadly, to me) been talking about moving to S. Carolina, and as much as I want them to be happy and well, it will break my heart to see them go.  Even though it is not exactly the other side of the globe, it is too far for me to drop by just for a hug, or for them to stop by to let our pups play together!  I am conflicted!  :)

• What makes a hero? 
• What makes an idol?
• What makes a role model? (added at 11:10, so some did not see this option!  :P  )
• Who is your hero, idol or role model?
• Why?

The strong young man at the construction site was bragging that he could outdo anyone in a feat of strength. He made a special case of making fun of one of the older workmen. After several minutes, the older worker had had enough.

"Why don't you put your money where your mouth is?" he said. "I will bet a week's wages that I can haul something in a wheelbarrow over to that building that you won't be able to wheel back."

"You're on, old man," the young guy replied.

The old man reached out and grabbed the wheelbarrow by the handles. Then he turned to the young man and said, "All right. Get in."   :P

I do just love the differences among us and value each of those whose opinions and viewpoints have been shared on the topic of heros/heroines, role models, and idols.  You are GREAT! 

My Turn!  :P

I have had several role models as I have grown into who I am today.  You will laugh, but one of the first role models I remember is Tazan!  Johnny Weismuller (sp)  I mean, really ... what's not to admire?  athletic, good communicator, and he looked pretty good in that loincloth!  :P  But seriously, I was a budding swimmer in my early years, and he could out swim a crocodile!

But as years went by and I tired of swinging through the jungle on vines, I developed a new admiration for a young man who became very instrumental in my life.  His employment was as the youth pastor at my parent's church, but he was much more than that.  In college, he had been a track star ... that is, until he blew out his knee.  That didn't stop him, though, and  ... he began to sow the seeds toward the vision he had of a sports camp that he has now gone on to achieve.  He owns and operates this awesome sports camp in the PA mountains called Summer's Best 2 Weeks.  The link is in my fav's, too!  >>>>>  Check it out! 

phsbum  is headed there on Sunday for her second year.  I have intense admiration for this man.  He started with nothing and has gained everything by hard work, good friends, and a loving God.  I am so deeply touched by his example.

My definitions are somewhat different that some of you  ... and as I said, I think that's GREAT! 

An idol,  to me, is an ideal or perfection, and there can be only one for me: Jesus  There is none other whose entire life is worth emulating!

Heros/role models?  I have many ... They are people who come face to face with limitations and struggle to overcome them.  They are people who, though imperfect, have embraced who they are and moved forward.  They are people who never quit though the challenges seem endless.  They are people who battle life-theatening ailments and continue to laugh.  They are people who walk what they talk, their character in line with their standards. 

(amended from this point)

• I admire T. Jefferson  as the author of the Declaration of Independence and any number of other important endeavors in our nation's infancy.
• I admire Booker T. Washington and several others for swimming upstream
• I admire the talent of my older daughter who can do ANYTHING with computer graphics!
• I admire many @mindsay for the way you all balance your lives: online balanced with real life relationships and work.
• I admire many of the mindsay youth for the way they face the unkowns of their future with a sense of humor and honesty that is awesome!
• I admire people of various faiths - as they walk it to the best of their understanding and ability in humility and love.

Again, thank You all for sharing your great stories.  Enjoy your day ... and keep an eye out for NEW heros/heroines!  :P

restlessness rages within me

too many pulls, too many draws!

i can't be all to all

I can't be all to any, really

i can only be me, no more, no less

and still I surge with restlessness

OR

The River
by Garth Brooks & Victoria Shaw

You know a dream is like a river
Ever changin' as it flows
And a dreamer's just a vessel
That must follow where it goes
Trying to learn from what's behind you
And never knowing what's in store
Makes each day a constant battle
Just to stay between the shores.. and

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Too many times we stand aside
And let the waters slip away
'Til what we put off 'til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don't you sit upon the shoreline
And say you're satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide.. yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

And there's bound to be rough waters
And I know I'll take some falls
But with the good Lord as my captain
I can make it through them all.. yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Yes, I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
'Til the river runs dry

Anyone else seem to move along with the seasons ... having seasons in your personal life?  Not like child, teen, adult ... not those kinds of seasons, but ... annual seasons ...

SPRING:  a time of growth, upheaval, passion, zest, energy, dreams, planting

SUMMER:  a time of testing, endurance, faith, struggle

AUTUMN:  changes, fruitfulness, reaping, , up-rooting, preparation, vision

WINTER: "death"- figurative, i.e deep struggle leading to resolution,  surrender,  rest, glimpses of new visions, thus anticipation!

It seems my life follows this pattern pretty regularly ... It is both a comfort AND it is also sobering.  It is NOT coincidence! ;)  Anyone else recognize patterns, or seasons in their life?

I'm not tired!

Aug 2004
phsbum  preparing for her first experience of reppelling...
one of many firsts at camp last year!

I figured I might try to give you all a little more details about this great camp.

Summer's Best 2 Weeks was the vision of one man ... Jim Welch, an ordained minister, but more inspirational in his love and life than in word. In 1968, the prototype began as a day camp at that time affiliated with a local congregation. It has now, 35+ years later, evolved into a magnificient experience for hundreds of kids.

Summer's Best Two Weeks is a privately owned Christian Camp with a format of competitive athletics, recreational activities, and wilderness experiences. It is not affiliated with a specific Church or denomination but is an affiliated member of Christian Camping International.
SB2W is a residential athletic and outdoor adventure camp committed to communicating the Gospel to students ages 8-18. Campers come for two weeks at a time to experience team athletics, community living, wilderness trips, creative programming and Bible study with college students who model Christ to them and encourage them to live their lives with the "I’m Third" (God first, others second, I’m third) motto as their guide.

At SB2W we desire for campers to begin an authentic relationship with Jesus Christ and to commit to living transformed lives. Our hope is to connect campers with mature believers who will foster their spiritual and personal growth through their two-week stay in a dynamic Christian community.

Jim and Nancy Welch

Jim is the Founder of SB2W and serves as Chairman of the Board. Nancy serves as office manager. Jim is a graduate of Oklahoma University and received his MDiv from Princeton Theological Seminary. Nancy is a graduate of Slippery Rock University and received her MA from Ohio University. They were married in 1981 and have a son, Kyle.

I enjoyed 6 summers at this camp, serving as director of water sports & music.  I can't help but enjoy the many, many wonderful memories even while phsbum makes her own memories.  Jim is one of the heros in my life ... one who has seen his dream come true with outstanding results & blessing.

The Blob!

The High Ropes Course

Preparing for white water run on Youghagheny River - Aquatramp in the background

Mini-sailing and other water sports on Lake Gloria

Alright ... all you animal lovers hearken and speedily give me advice!  PLEASE! :)   Our home is graced by the presence of 3 animals ... (not counting rodents).  2 cats and a pup.  ow the sad tale of it is that a prior cat who has since passed away, began to loose control of his bodily functions toward the end and initiated a spot in my bedroom.  The other 2 cats, have now taken to following his urinary example, thus destroying the carpet in my bedroom.  They now will use any piece of clothing or paper that happens to fall in the hallway.  Our pup, being easily swayed by the "wise" example of the cats, now adds to the mess. 

Question:  Is there any way, short of getting rid of the cats, to re-teach them?  I have tried scrubbing, praising, re-locating kitty boxes, multiple kitty boxes, but our home smell of urine ... ewwwwwwwwwww ?????????????  The pup is young enough that she can be trained if I make the necessary changes NOW ... I think!

And so ... the verdict is ... at least for now, the cats will become outdoor cats ... not a real problem because there are plenty of places for shelter i.e under the porch, or under the carport, under the overhang in the back of the house.  By winter, I should have the nasty carpet ripped out and and hallway thoroughly scrubbed with enzyme-neutralizing solution.  I of course, exaggerated ever-so-slightly as to the aroma ... that is to ME!  It is not the fragrance that greets one upon entering the home!  I will put a kitty flap on the basement door so they can come in downstairs ... just won't be permitted upstairs by me.  Now ... will the kids cooperate?  hmmmmmm I need to re-train them, too????  sheesh!  ;)

I have actually been thinking about fencing in my back yard anyway ... so perhaps that is another step in the solution.  :)

P.S. All 4 legged animals in our home (excluding rodents) have been neutered/spayed

One of the pups in a breeder's litter of collies had a strange appetite, fostered no doubt, because the dog fancier's kennel was deep in the southern United States.

The odd youngster spurned regular dog food, no meaty tid-bits could tempt him and he hated dog biscuits. just in time to save the little dog's life, the owner found he would eat nothing but watermelons.

He doted on them. His brother pups could not understand this and they teased him unmercifully. He became the butt of their pranks until his tail would droop and he would whimper and shiver in a corner.

His mother, trying to comfort him, called him to her. She said, ... "Come to me, my melon collie baby."

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A woman phoned her dentist when she received a huge bill. "I'm shocked!" she complained. "This is three times what you normally charge." "Yes, I know," said the dentist. "But you yelled so loud, you scared away two other patients."

I wish I still had pics of when I was in camp ... gee, did they HAVE cameras back then?  hmmmm  Well ...

Go, Go Galatians!!  You see ... This is a sports camp.  Every camper is assigned to either the Romans (red) or the Galatians (blue).  In the beginning, this wasn't as big a deal as it is nowadays!  My brother, for example, was a Roman while I was a Galatian. (hmmm prophetic?)  Today, they keep families on the same team and it gets kinda crazy sometimes.  (phsbum  is a Roman as was her cousin last year)  The campers compete in EVERYTHING from bunk neatness to water skiing to building character (as determined by fellow cabin members & counselors).  The point is life skillsand friendships that can last a lifetime.  Another neat thing is, the motto of the camp has always been the same:  I'm third. (Jesus is first, others second.)  It's one thing to say it, another thing to teach it and practice it. 

The first week of camp consists of learning and practicing the various activities, many of which are new to the campers.  By the second week, however, competition begins.  It is structured so that the competition is both individual but more importantly a team thing and ALWAYS friendly.  Last year, for example, my daughter slipped on the rock climb and kinda froze.  One of the other campers, climbed back down to encourage her and help her to finish the climb. 

As the end of the 2 weeks approaches, there are 3 major events: the wrestling match (a big team event), the swim meet, and the track meet.  Every camper particiaptes in every activity (unless, of course, there is some medical reason for excluding them)  The wrestling match is just for boys (at least 30 years ago it was) but the girls make enough noise to loose their voices!  The swim and track meets are huge team events.  Generally, the competition is so close that no one but Jim really knows the winning team until it is announced the final day of camp with parents and families in attendence.  It is a wonderful  ... (understatement) experience ... a life-changing experience in a positive sense. 

Last year, there was a camper in Janna's cabin whose parents had been killed 3 months earlier in a car accident.  Since that time, the 14 yr old girl had been passed around among the relatives because she became a discipline problem.  She attempted suicide on 2 occasions prior to coming to camp which was kinda a last resort effort by an aunt.  Although she was difficult, the other girls made an effort to embrace her and include her ... She is back this summer, still a bit "strange", but clearly there by choice and not by persuation! 

The first year, 1968, I suppose there may have been 20 of us at the most on staff.  We rode up to the camp (Then called Camp Fairfield in Boswell, PA) in the back of a yellow flatbed pickup truck.  Naturally, we had a blast singing and laughing, joking around... a healthy bunch of teenagers the youngest of whom were high school juniors, like me, and the oldest College seniors. 

Steve, Paul, Ken, Rich, Amy, Anne,  ... hmmmm funny, I can remember the names of the guys, but not as many of the girls!  ;)  Many of the counselors went on to become ordained pastors etc. 

We would go up on Saturday, the day before camp openned so that we could get situated in our cabins.  Sunday about 2 the campers would begin to arrive.  So much excitement in the air!  It is so hard to capture the anticipation, the nervous excitement, even the romance (and I don't mean between boys and girls) on the place ... nestled beside a small lake in the Laurel Mountains of Pennsylvania, night sky so clear that stars looked like spotlights, foggy mornings with enough dew on the grass to soak sneakers, songs sung that glued themselves to your heart and mind so that 30+ years later they are as fresh, profound or silly, as they were then, and smiling faces ... smiling faces.  I don't ever remember a camper being sent home for either homesickness or disciplinary reasons.  There have been a few accidents along the way, but never anything life-threatening. 

Gee ... I hope you can sense some of my enthusiasm for this place and the staff.  Any of you parents looking for a GREAT place for your kids for next summer ... :D  (gee, maybe I should ask for a commission? :P  )  I can't recommend it more highly!  Don't let money stop you, either.  There are scholarships available! 

All three taken 6/95:  Ages 12, 8, & 5  :D

For those of you who have not yet had the priveldge and pleasure of becoming a mom (or dad) let me begin this little episode with one of the most understated cliche s about parenthood ... It is perhaps the most thankless job on earth. 

As I write this, I am I suppose feeling a bit blue.  I ordered pizza for a nice, quiet family time.  Silly me!  My two older kids, #1 is 22 and her brother is 19 ... together they are self-isolated within his room: one playing x-box, the other watching ... door closed ... :(  Pizza arrived;  they walk out grab what they want ... (all but 5 pieces out of 18) ... One softly said thanks mom ... as she headed back into their cavern. 

*sigh* 

I do miss the "family times" we used to have when they were all younger ... even me!  It is just hard letting go ... especially while they are still under my roof.

Ahhhhhh, see ... we're back to the seasons ... For the past several years, summer has been very difficult one way or the other.  What is it about the furnace of afflictions ...??? ;)

Lest I seem ungrateful, I am blessed and I know it!  I didn't earn it; did nothing to promote it or deserve it ... but I have 3 really great, if sometimes insensitive, kids!   

When Stalin completed 25 years of his rule over Russia, he wanted a special postage stamp issued, with his picture on it.

He so instructed the Postmaster General, stressing that it should be of international quality.

The stamps were duly released of the stamp, he began hearing complaints that the stamp was not sticking properly, and become furious.

He called the chief of the Secret Service and ordered him to investigate the matter.

The chief checked the matter out at several post offices, and then reported on the problem to Stalin.

He said: "Sir, the stamp is really of international quality. The problem is, our citizens are spitting on the wrong side!" 

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How to start your day with a positive outlook.

• 1. Open a new file in your PC.
• 2. Name it "Housework."
• 3. Send it to the RECYCLE BIN
• 4. Empty the RECYCLE BIN
• 5. Your PC will ask you, "Are you sure you want to delete Housework permanently?"
• 6. Answer calmly, "Yes," and press the mouse button firmly....
• 7. Feel better?

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My grandson, Chris, has worn glasses since the age of three. When he was in the first grade he came home one day very distressed. Wanting to find out what was the matter his mother asked, "Chris, what happened today to upset you so?"

He answered, "It's not fair that I'm not allowed to go to the library."

His mother became very concerned and asked, "Why aren't you allowed to go to the library?"

With a tearful reply he said, "Because, in order to go to the library you have to have super-vision, and I wear glasses!"

We ALL do it ... it's almost automatic, I suppose ... a need for neatness and order ... but Why, really, are we so quick to slap a label(s) on a person before we have a chance to get acquainted?  So many labels to choose from ...

                                                           rich  <---------------->  poor

                   White  <------------->  non-white

                                                       old  <----------------->  young

                           gay  <-----------------> straight

             religious  <------------- > non-religious or worse yet, different religion

Democrat <------------------------------ >  Republican

                                Left  <----------------------------------------->right

                                                                               dumb  <------->  smart

Pacifist  <------------------------------------- > Warrior

                           Judgmental  <--------------------------------------> Accepting or Tolerant

Jewish  <--->  Asian  <--->  African-American  <-->  Native American <---->Hispanic

The only real question should be ...  Can I build a mutually beneficial relationship with this person ... or not? 

Perhaps we'd all be better served if we'd get to know one another FIRST ... then decide if each is friendship material.  If it is war we seek, there are any number of reasons to war with one another.  Peace, on the other hand, is much harder to make.   

(For similar post, please see lightofchrist post for 10 Aug)

Today I am tired and ... RESTLESS!  hahahaha  so what else is new ...?  I'll be so glad when school starts and the market opens back up a little bit!  Nothing is selling here!  sheeeeesh ... 95º and hazy, hot, & humid are the most often used words on TV!  OI!

Somebody say something clever ... or at least argumentative!  :P  Maybe I'll go look for a risque pic of something!  later .............

1. FIRST NAME? Barbara

2. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? nope, but my dad wanted to name me Virginia Ann!  :P

3. DO YOU WISH ON STARS? I love to gaze at the stars and sometimes dreamily, but no ... I can't honestly say I wish on them.

4. WHICH FINGER IS YOUR FAVORITE?  Which ... FINGER?  sheesh, I don't know.  I'm pretty grateful I have all 10, though!

Hi Folks ... How are ya???  What going on in YOUR neck of the woods???

A thoughtful and intrusive Quiz

1.  First thing on a Sunday morning, I must have my:

2.  First thing on a Monday morning, I must have my :

3.  And because it is the weekend, I refuse to think about :

4.  Now if only I had :___________, the weekend would be complete.

5.   :) means  I am:

6.  One of my pet peeves is when my neighbors here at Mindsay:

7.  :P means:

8.  What is your earliest life memory?

9.  What is your most recent  ... oooops I forgot? 

10.  On a scale of 1 thru 5 (with 5 as max) how organized are you?

11.  On a scale of 1 thru 5 (with 5 as max), how content are you with your employment or school choices?

12.  What is your favorite color? (Every good quiz asks this question, right?)

13.  What's your favorite hot weather treat?

14.  On a scale of 1 thru 5 (with 5 as max), how informed are you about your town, city, village, tribe ?

15.  Read the paper or watch TV news?

16.  Your most prominant personality trait:

17.  inside or outside?

18.  ketchup or mustard?

19.  What fruit or veg best represent you?

20.  If I invited you to my "Fruits & Nutts" party and You HAD to wear a costume, would you come and if so, as what? 

Abortion Statistics - World

In 54 countries (61% of the world population) abortions are legal.

In 97 countries (39% of the world population) abortions are illegal.

There are approximately 46 million abortions conducted eacy year, 20 million of them obtained illegally.

There are approximately 126,000 abortions conducted each day. (worldwide)

Abortion Statistics - U.S.

Approximately 1,370,000 abortions occur annually in the U.S. according to the Alan Guttmacher Institute. In 2001, 1.31 million abortions took place.

88% of abortions occur during the first 6 to 12 weeks of pregnancy.

60% of abortions are performed on women who already have one or more children.

47% of abortions are performed on women who have already had one or more abortions.

Abortion Statistics - Demographics

Age - The majority of women getting an abortion are young. 52% are younger than 25 years old and 19% are teenagers. The abortion rate is highest for those women aged 18 to 19 (56 per 1,000 in 1992.)

Marriage - 51% of women who are unmarried when they become pregnant will receive an abortion. Unmarried women are 6 times more likely than married women to have an abortion. 67% of abortions are from women who have never been married.

Race - 63% of abortion patients are white, however, black women are more than 3 times as likely to have an abortion, and Hispanic women are 2.5 times as likely.

Religion - 43% of women getting an abortion claimed they were Protestant, while 27% claimed they were Catholic.

Abortion Statistics - Decisions to Have an Abortion (U.S.)

25.5% of women deciding to have an abortion want to postpone childbearing.

21.3% of women cannot afford a baby.

14.1% of women have a relationship issue or their partner does not want a child.

12.2% of women are too young (their parents or others object to the pregnancy.)

10.8% of women feel a child will disrupt their education or career.

7.9% of women want no (more) children.

3.3% of women have an abortion due to a risk to fetal health.

2.8% of women have an abortion due to a risk to maternal health.

Abortion Statistics - Using Contraception (U.S.)

54% of women having an abortion said they used some form of contraception during the month they became pregnant.

90% of women who are at risk for unplanned pregnancies are using contraception

8% of women having an abortion say they have never used contraception.

 Abortion statistics  

"An early pregnancy abortion costs less than an advanced pregnancy abortion. An early pregnancy would fall between 6 to 11 weeks from the first day of the last menstrual period. As the pregnancy advances after 11 weeks the cost increases approximately $100 per week. Early pregnancy abortions can cost anywhere from $350 to $600, depending on the city, state, and clinic in which the procedure is performed. A small number of providers offer terminations through 24 weeks. The cost for a late second trimester procedure can cost up to as much as $3,000."    http://www.womensmedcenter.com/faqs/default.asp#17  

The numbers are about the same on various sites, and it is a good thing to note that the numbers of abortions are in fact, diminishing slightly. I am simply posting these numbers in reply to an inquiry. It is a common misconception that most abortions are performed for either legitimate medical reasons or in response to a rape or similar violation. NOT TRUE! Those are exceptions almost all of us can live with for obvious reasons, but they make up only a tiny fraction of the approx 3500 abortions performed daily in the USA.

An airliner flew into a violent thunderstorm and was soon swaying and bumping around the sky. One very nervous lady happened to be sitting next to a clergyman and turned to him.

"Can't you do something?" she demanded angrily.

"I'm sorry ma'am," the Reverend said gently, "I'm in sales, not management."

* * * * * * * * * * *

At a posh Manhattan dinner party, a Latin American visitor was telling the guests about this home country and himself. As he concluded, he said, "And I have a charming and understanding wife but, alas, no children."

As his listeners appeared to be waiting for him to continue, he said, haltingly, "You see, my wife is unbearable."

Puzzled glances prompted him to try to clarify the matter: "What I mean is, my wife is inconceivable."

As his companions seemed amused, he floundered deeper into the intricacies of the English language, explaining triumphantly, "That is, my wife, she is impregnable!"

* * * * * * * * * * *

"Would the person who lost a fat roll of hundred dollar bills, wrapped in a rubber band, please report to the Lost & Found Department - we found your rubber band."

* * * * * * * * * * *

A man had been driving all night and by morning was still far from his destination. He decided to stop at the next city he came to, and park somewhere quiet so he could get an hour or two of sleep.

As luck would have it, the quiet place he chose happened to be on one of the city's major jogging routes. No sooner had he settled back to snooze when there came a knocking on his window. He looked out and saw a jogger running in place.

"Yes?"

"Excuse me, sir," the jogger said, "do you have the time?"

The man looked at the car clock and answered, "8:15".

The jogger said thanks and left. The man settled back again, and was just dozing off when there was another knock on the window and another jogger.

"Excuse me, sir, do you have the time?"

"8:25!"

The jogger said thanks and left. Now the man could see other joggers passing by and he knew it was only a matter of time before another one disturbed him. To avoid the problem, he got out a pen and paper and put a sign in his window saying, "I do not know the time!"

Once again he settled back to sleep. He was just dozing off when there was another knock on the window.

"Sir, sir? It's 8:45!."

You're buying a home and the process is well underway. The sellers accepted your offer to purchase. The home is officially under contract and you're counting down the days to closing. The lender pre-approved you, so buying the house is a sure thing, right?

Not quite. Nothing is certain until the keys are in your hands. There are still major hurdles to get past before you close, and your actions between now and closing can create headaches, slowdowns, and even stop the transaction.

1. Don't Make a Major Purchase

2. Don't Change Jobs Unless It's Necessary

3. Don't Give an Earnest Money Deposit Directly to a For Sale By Owner Seller

4. Don't Let Your Emotions Take Over

5. Don't Forget to Switch Utilities

6. Line Up Your Hazard Insurance

7. Don't Become Best Friends with the Seller ... Yet

8. Don't Panic if the Appraisal Comes in Low

9. Don't Go It Alone

10. Don't Ignore Lender Requirements

You've just found out your credit is A+. That's great news, because a new car would look fantastic in the driveway of your new home. But hang on--if you are depending on a mortgage to move in, you'd best wait until after closing to buy the car.

An increase in your debt to income ratio reduces the amount of monthly income available for your mortgage payment.

If you tack on a higher car payment, the bank might decide you cannot afford the home.

Using cash to purchase the car could also create a problem, since banks consider cash reserves when approving your mortgage. If you must make a major purchase before closing, talk to your loan officer before you do it.

When they both had come to a stop the truck driver once again jumped out and started banging on the trailer door. The motorist went up to him and said, "I don't mean to be nosey but why do you keep banging on that door?"

To which the trucker replied, "Sorry, can't talk now, I have 20 tons of canaries and a 10 ton limit, I have to keep half of them in the air all the time!"

Your element is Water. You have a calm aura around
you and are in tune with the world around. You
observe it but rarely interfere. Because of
your shy and timid nature you will not have so
many friends in your life. But then again,
large crowds aren't your thing anyway. You are
comfortable on your own and are reserved to
others who you don't know or know very little
of. You know everyone out there does not want
to be your friend, and knowing that is good.
However, people who don't know you that well
thinks that you are cold and distant since you
don't want to talk to them. Although you mean
no harm, you can't always be perfectly
understood in the world. No one can. Life in
general are you quite serene with even if there
are some things you don't like. Your love-life
is not so full of boys/girls, but if you
flirted more with the ones you were interested
in I'm sure something would happen. The hobbies
you choose are calmer ones, you are no party
person that likes to drink and make-out with
three or more guys/girls in one night. Reading
a book or swimming is more your thing.

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As most of you know, I have been struggling along working 2 jobs for over 2 years now and it SUCKS@!!! I'm too old to be playing these games, living in a sleep deprived state. So once again, I am looking ... praying ... seeking ... for something that will both pay my bills and afford me some entertainment, challenge, social life, & satisfaction. As much as I like real estate, nothing is selling at the moment.  It's hard to stay positive.  The one thing that motivates me in life in general is helping people, being of some service to them ... if I can't do that, then I kinda shut down.  I'm stuggling to think of something ... working for some cause, some non-profit org, but would they be able to pay me?   ... I don't know ... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

It is a gut level frustration that a remotely intelligent and talented woman, such as myself, can't find some kind of employment that fills those requirements. Any ideas, suggestions, encouragements or well wishes are appreciated! :D *browsing classifieds*

P.S.  See ... without the support/ input of a loving spouse, you all will just have to do !  ;)   (damn summer season!)

Off to retrieve phsbum from camp!  I'm sure she'll have plenty to say once she re-adjusts to reality!  Until then ... for your amusement and laughing pleasure ...

A boy was taking care of his baby sister while his parents went to town shopping. He decided to go fishing and he had to take her along.

"I'll never do that again!" he told his mother that evening. "I didn't catch a thing!"

"Oh, next time I'm sure she'll be quiet and not scare the fish away," his mother said.

The boy said, "It wasn't that. She ate all the bait."

During a temporary shutdown of operations at a large plant, trained police dogs were hired to protect the building from vandalism. A company executive who was unaware of the new regime arrived at the plant early one morning.
As he was walking down the corridor to his office, he came face to face with one of the dogs, accompanied by his trainer.

The dog reacted to the presence of the stranger by baring his teeth and uttering a menacing growl. The executive froze to the spot. The trainer shouted in an authoritative tone the command: "Sit!"

The unnerved executive promptly sat down on the floor.

Don't ya wish ALL executives and leaders were as responsive???  :P

Campers experience the glory of the Youghiogheny River at Ohiopyle, PA

Many of you know that my daughter, phsbum , has just returned from her time at Summer's Best 2 Weeks - an outstanding sports camps in the Laurel moutains of PA.  I posted pics of some of the many activities the campers are privileged to experience.  I have learned, however, that one major activity has been disallowed by our state government, after 30 years of incident free use.  There are few things that rattle my chains more than stepping on the toes of kids!

"The state contends Summer's Best is an organized group with professional guides, placing the camp in violation of a policy that allows only four licensed outfitters at Ohiopyle or private citizens, even those with limited or no experience, to navigate the challenging lower Yough.

Summer's Best counters it has a right to the river, and denying the campers access is a state park is more about a monopoly by the outfitters than safety."  (Kirk Swauger/ The Tribune-Democrat)

What it boils down to is the state parks commissions and the local state government would rather see these kids use the river UNaccompanied than guided by skilled camp personnel.  They charge that the camp is in violation because the campers pay a fee to come to camp (though NOT to participate in the Yough River Run exclusively), and the camp staff is paid, so that makes them an River Outfitter operating without a license.   Now, it would seem that two options are clear:

• Either the state issue the camp a commercial license,  or
• See it for what it is - one of many camp activities well supervised by qualified camp staff. 

In their 35+ year history, Summer's Best has had NO serious incidents on the river, and it has become a highlight of the camping experience of thousands of kids over the years. 

The state has issued 4 commercial licenses to the four outfitters on the Youghiogheny River at Ohiopyle.  One of these outfitters has offered the camp a price of $33-$34 a head for the use of their staff and equipment, and states that the safety of the campers is at risk.  History, however, proves otherwise. 

Summer's Best 2 Weeks strives to keep it's cost-to-campers as low as insurance and maintenance costs allow.  At the same time, safety is always a primary issue.   Even with the high ropes challenge course, the repelling tower, the 100 ft water slide, water skiing, and any number of other challenging and strenuous activities, in it's illustrious 30+ history, though there have been plenty of bumps and bruises, and even a few broken bones, there have been NO serious injuries.  The staff members are well trained in general safety measures & first aide,  and they are expertly skilled in the activities they each supervise. 

Safety is NOT the real issue.  My RE partner (whose wife is an attorney) and I are assuming a leadership position in the political battle to re-gain access for the camp to the exquisite white water of the lower Yough.  I, personally, have run the River several times with other camp staff, and have experienced both the thrill of the natural beauty and power of the river AND the skill and professionalism of the camp staff river team.  It is a sad day when our political regime robs momentous experiences like this from kids!

Thanks to astro1701  for this:

BEST POSITIONS IN BED

• Captain Kangaroo won five Emmy awards.
  
• Kermit the frog has 11 points on his collar around his neck.
  
• Pluto (the dog from Disney) was originally called “Rover”.
  
• Wilma Flinstone’s maiden name was Wilma Slaghoopal and Betty Rubble’s maiden name was Betty Jean Mcbricker.
  
• If Barbie (the doll) was life size, her measurements would be 39-23-33.
  
• Barbie?s (the doll) full name is Barbara Millicent Roberts.
  
• Donald Duck’s middle name is Fauntleroy.
  
• The comic known as Peanuts was originally known as Li’lfolks.
  
• The dog featured on a box of Cracker Jacks name is Bingo, the little boy is Jack.
  
• Pinocchio is Italian for “pine eye”!
  
• The first TV couple to sleep in the same bed was Fred and Wilma Flintstone.
  

Maybe it's because I have been in a place of requiring genuine help, or maybe it's a community conscience, or maybe it's just plain common sense, but it really irks me when reasonably intelligent people CHOOSE not to be gainfully employed and take advantage of the system.  This constitutes abuse of the system as far as I am concerned.  I see it all the time ... healthy young (younger than me) men and women living on welfare - which means you and I are supporting them.  Many, though I'm sure not all, make money by selling illegal drugs or their own bodies, but many also cut corners and take advantage of an imperfect system, taking money "under the table" or by skirting the system in other ways.  One person's freedom is only freedom until it bumps into another person's freedom.  It certainly precludes them from having any grounds upon which to stand and complain! 

Although I can understand and even sympathize with an anti-corporate mentality, and the anonymity that accompanies it, it still does not justify deliberately "getting over" on the system in place to help those who genuinely need assistance.  Then I have also heard many of these same people complain about the gov't and the corruption there ... go figure? 

I don't suppose any of us (well, maybe a few)  ENJOY going to work everyday, but neither is the alternative appealing.  I was unemployed for over a year 5 years ago, and it was miserable!  Naturally, I have a soft spot in my heart for single moms trying to train up their children and pay the bills at the same time.  I applaud those who struggle who find some avenue of repaying the community through volunteer efforts and service. 

There are flaws in the system, naturally, since there are flaws in the humans that design the system, but when people set out to beat the system using their abilities, well ... I personally think it's shameful.   Interestingly enough, many brag about it! 

* Although cats are rather delicate creatures, and they are subject to a good many ailments, I never heard of one who suffered from insomnia.

* Dogs and cats instinctively know the exact moment their owners will wake up. Then they wake them 10 minutes sooner.

* Dogs have owners. Cats have staff.

* Dogs shed, cats shred.

* I wonder if other dogs think poodles are members of a weird religious cult?

* No one appreciates the very special genius of your conversation as the dog does.

* Outside of a dog, a book is probably man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.
* I hope to be the kind of person my dog thinks I am.

* Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.

* We wonder why the dogs always drink out of our toilets, but look at it from their point of view: Why do humans keep peeing into their water bowls?

* Women and cats will do as they please ... men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.

* When a man's best friend is his dog, that dog has a problem.

I wonder as I wander ...

A couple weeks ago, I wrote about seasons, and how my life seems to dance through time intertwined with them.  I'm not sure if they effect changes in me, or if it is just because we are Authored by the same Creator.  The transition times as we move from one season to another are times are intense restlessness for me as some have noticed in my writings.  I struggle for focus, for purpose, for short-term goals.  History tells me that the times I feel like I must throw in the towel, so to speak, are the moments just before increased revelation or vision.  I am a seeker, an idealistic philosopher, and a nurturer.  And man, am I restless!!! 

SPRING:  a time of growth, upheaval, passion, zest, plowing, energy, dreams, planting

SUMMER:  a time of testing, endurance, faith, struggle, fire, evaluation

AUTUMN:  changes, enjoying fruitfulness, reaping, unmasking,  up-rooting, preparation, vision, true colors

WINTER: "death"- figurative, i.e deep struggle leading to resolution,  surrender,  rest, glimpses of new visions, thus anticipation!

How could anyone resist this face?  ;)

Barbara